Here are some ways that we can use to keep our parental authority:
1. When you say No, mean it. dontít hesitate or back down, mean it with a stern voice. If you giggle, brush the bad behavior off or leave it alone, your child is more likely to take advantage of you in the future. Saying No those first 100 times is worth it.
2. Dontít bribe your child. Telling your child they will get a toy at the next store if they stop teasing their sibling, isnít the best approach. Bribing your child only allows them to continue doing as they wish and getting away with that bad behavior.
3. Talk over the incident. Your child may not remember why they are being told No or that they were told No once before. If so, remind them why they cannot stay up late at night or fight with their sister. Help them understand their behavior and the consequences that come with their actions.
4. When you dontít feel like saying No today, that sets you back one more day from your setting goals with your childrenís behavior. Thus, it is important to act on it and be consistent on the things that you are disproving.
5. It is possible to cut down the number of times you must say no to your kids. That doesn't make you weak, and it doesn't mean you should ignore what you feel is right.When faced with a no, try to see if there is a compromise or adjustment that could be made to the child's request. For example, your child wants to play outside, but her room is a mess. Offer the chance to play outside when the room is clean. The child wants a toy he sees at the store and you dont't want to buy it. Offer him a chance to earn the money to buy it for himself by doing chores or being helpful around the house. Keep a chart to show progress. This kind of compromising keeps the parent in control and teaches the child about appropriate give and take. It won't be long before your child is offering to do chores in exchange for getting what she wants.
In life, we seldom get everything we want whenever we want it. As a parent, saying no helps to teach your child responsibility, boundaries and delayed gratification. Explaining why you say no will help you build a strong and trusting relationship, even if you have to wait until the tantrum or crying is over.