i guess mother in law are always siding their own children, i.e. your hubby. That is they tend to be subjective, especially for older generations. Its in their blood, cannot be changed.
on the other hand, having extramarital affairs is definitely wrong. Were there unresolved problems with you and your dear husband that causes him to go for other woman? But even though there WERE problems unknowingly was it ethically RIGHT to have EMA just because of this? Problems between couple have to be resolved and not avoided. EMA is just taking the opportunity to avoid the problem altogether, and blaming on this and that does not give you the license to fool around.
1) huh? why so poor thing hand wash clothes? WM is a machine, not an antique piece or display feature artifact. My hubby's clothes are also dirty from work everyday, i also put them inside WM.....
2) good that your kid is "dong shi"
3) my son plays barney on a dvd player everytime he is awake and i think its good coz he has learnt new words very fast. But as long as their eyes are not alw fixed on tv (which is really bad) its fine actually.
4) yeah mee too, same as above.
Your husband is right to say that we really need to give in to elders sometimes even though they are wrong. They are, afterall, elders. Best is to avoid staying together, to minimise frictions. Other than that you will need to listen with one ear closed.