I am also in the same situation but not to the extend yet. I just got married 6 months again and we only par tor for 2 years then get married. Sometimes I also think back why did I married him. Actually he himself knows I love him more than he love me. He even tell me not to love him so much and dont do so much things for him cause he say he doesn't want me to feel disappointed when he doesn't appreciate what i did. when i hear that i was so shock and sad. By the way before marriage we quarrel alot even in front of his parents they once saw a big drama quarrel where my dear husband punched the wall. He always show me black face when he is moody or scold me when I just say something wrongly. He didn't even give me face in front of my mum (but at least now he try to not scold me in front of my mum). After marriage, and staying with his family, he is slightly better but when he becomes moody, i will get all the suffering.Can you image he can talk and laugh with other people and when he turn and saw me he will give me black face and ignore me. How do I feel. Sometimes i think maybe is because I am fat and he prefer slim girls. I tried so hard to slim down but when I am stress I put on wt. I am also wondering maybe one day he will say D to me. Just hope and pray hard our marriage will improve and i also learnt to talk less and know when to say things(but sometimes speak out too fast and create trouble for myself, and i will hate myself for making him angry) and also give him free time as he is a very ego man. keeping fingers crossed that one day he will realised he has a blissful marriage. (his father was like that when younger, but when his father got older, he realised his wife is good..so i am wondering if it's in their family genes)....by the way i am his first GF and then become wife...guess maybe he is also lack in experience in being romantic and loving and caring for his the other half.