have you taken any action?My husband is a regular he often travel overseas like Thailand for example, I got to know that he cheated on me after he came back from Thailand after a one month training, he actually confessed to me that he cheated on the day itself when he arrived Singapore and this is not the first incident.
The camp actually organized a mass party for all the soldiers, that goes without saying that he actually attended the party, he got to know this model and started msg-ing her and flirted, I caught him red-handed and confronted him.
He went to Thailand for a one month training, they do have weekends free time etc, so he went party with his friends and like I say "Thailand" clubs, I suppose it's like 10x what's more horrible than you see in Sg's Thai clubs. The girl actually see that his not a local and she kissed him and that's what he say, I ask if there's anything more going on he said no? I have doubts but I didn't argued further. In that one month as a mother of 2 I can't go out and all stuck with my 2 kids, my son admitted the hospital and stayed with him for a week. I dont't see what I've done wrong to deserve all these?
I would like to create awareness for those whose husbands are working in the SAF to be extra cautious and careful of their husbands. Yes the force would sacked any men with aids and also for the regulars they often go for body check up, but what if someday our husbands got themselves into all these AIDS AND DISEASES and when we realize, we as wife got all these transmitted diseases by them isn't it too late and unfair to us? We as woman nowadays have to work for our family and also take care of the family some even have to give up their career in order to take care their families but why are we having to tolerate all this what "ifs" that are created by our husbands?
The government encourage us to give birth but judging from incident, why would I want to give birth more when my marriage is [you]always at risk[/you]? I seriously feel that someone should look into this matter, isn't the camp a place built for the soldiers to have their training instead of a place for models to be selling shots in sleazy attire? Isn't this ironic? I do not know if other countries practice the same culture but I personally feel that if these so called "Singapore soldier's culture" continues what kinda impact is this culture gonna take effect on the males and females in Singapore? How would those regular's wife feel?
Yes I agree if your husband wants to cheat no one can stop him from cheating, then again if this culture doesn't exist, the probability for him to know a new girl and develop further is really minimized and that the percentage of a family being broken up is even closer to [you]ZERO[/you], given the fact that both the income and prospect as a regular is rather good and stable, many young materialistic girls would just throw themselves to these men but nevertheless unless an opportunity is given as such. There's this saying [you]better preventing than to cure[/you], this saying does comes in for a reason. It's like if you didn't teach your kid feed your kid an Apple he wouldn't know how sweet an Apple may taste like.
Many woman suffered betrayal but how many would stand up and share about their shameful story? I'm not proud that I'm one but my motive is to let other woman whose husband are regular or of the same plight feel that they are not the only one suffering in silence. As a mother we ought to be strong both physically and mentally, when we feel like our world is falling apart it's best that we stand firm and seek for the best solution instead of crying aimlessly. As for a mother of 2 of the age of 23years I'm not in any position to speak like an expert but I do hope what I've spoken today would help many others that may be going through the same thing. (:!