cinx, your son's pic...he is sooo chubby and cute
This is a discussion on arghhhhhhhhhhhh in laws .... within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by cinx huahahahahahahahaha ... yes lucky thing she can't feed my son or else it's gonna be worse, ...
cinx, your son's pic...he is sooo chubby and cute
Now that she's 6 months old, I slowly prolong the expressing time and now only express 3 times a day; 730am, 430pm and 1130pm.. everyday Inez will be having 3 times of breast milk, 1 time of solid and 2 times of FM(for night time).
must tell your baby to cooperate... dont cry when in your room.. else im sure she'll want to bang thru the door and "rescue" him.. :P
haha.. but ok .. whatever we said. It's good that your ILs actually doted on your baby so much. I know sometimes can be quite irritating. But at least you know baby is in the hands of someone who loves him as much as you do.
huahahahaha normally after i bathe and halfway change him, my son will feel bored and he will start his fake cries ... and yes every one will come, asking what happen .. there're lots of comment ... the clothes too small, dont let him wear ... the water too cold or too hot ... etc etc ... and yes at the end i lock the door, at least no matter how my son cries they can't come in
yes ... i'm agree with you all .. no matter how annoying they're at least they still love my son, better then didn't care at all ... just need to bear with them ... and best, get our own place
my mother in law also te same... she also really gets on my nerves...
i did told my mother in law off... coz one of the day I really can't take it anymore.. I'm just like a crazy women... I scream ar her, scold her, pointing my ginger at her.
My hubby got a shock he tried to stop me but he could'not coz I'm like a crazy women at that time really can't imagine that after that incident.
After that incident, my mother in law dare not come and snatch my baby, she dare not carry my baby without me saying OK . If i say leave him in the playpen/walker she will not carry him. She will just stand near the playpen/walker play with him. She never have a chance to feed my baby event now he is on solid food already.
phewww...... i guess I've done something right.
i can sympathize with you..and i think you're super duper awesome for living with the in-laws. i can never do that.
though we have our own place, my mom would stay with us monthly for 9-10 days..and it's the thing that i drag the most. she always thinks i am not giving the best for my baby, and not doing the best for him. she always thinks her ways are the way to go. (i.e. she'd put my baby under the sun to sun him every morning, even though he sweats like mad, and his eczema flares up due to the heat..she doesnt care. she thinks he needs the sun and only morning sun is good. afternoon sun isnt.
she'd force my baby to walk all the time to exercise. he is not allowed to sit down and play with a toy, or stand next to the toy box choosing a toy. he has to be walking all the time as though he's on a treadmill.
i know she thinks that my baby is her 'do-over', another chance of her raising a child. but my goodness, i wish she would bugger off already..and leave us alone.
problem with my in laws is .. they always want to monopoly the baby, but thankss god ... they knew nothing about raising him ... so i could just shut them off by saying 'doctor said ok' or 'doctor said no'
but with my mum hhauahhahaha ... i got the same problem ... she take care 3 of us by herself ... so she complain a lots when she saw me take care of my son, telling me to do this and that ... and why i didn't do what she did before
so yes i understand how you feel too .... but since it's my mum so i can tolerate her more ... but still sometimes bit annoying ... they're time is different then ours, but they still think they're living in it
i was ok with my parent in law... but not after i give birth to my dear daughter... i also very pissed with them!.... here's my story...
my mom come over to do my confinement for me...during my confinement stupid parent in law EVERYDAY/NITE also come over! then once my hubby or my mom open the house door, them will chong to go into my room to see baby... no knock or anyting! somemore they not only go in see .. as the baby cot is on my side of the bed, they will practically sit on my side of the bed to see dear daughter... everynite also like that for my whole confinement! been hinting my hubby but useless bum just keep quiet & tinks there's nuthing wrong with that... can still ask me back 'what's wrong with that?' Damn bloody pissed!
cos parent in law helps to buy food over for my mum to cook for me, so he will bring over in the morning... once my mum open the door he will just chong in to my room to see baby dont care whether i'm still sleeping or what , no knock or anything... so after a few times if i know he's coming over in the morning, i purposely ask my mom to close the door even if i'm not doing anyting.... even my mum also complaint, my sis also buay tahan... if it's her she already flare up already....
then the min father in law see my ger, he will keep saying 'yeye ? yeye yeye .... mama ? mama ...' (means, where's grandpa, grandpa come already.. where's grandma, grandma come already) even when she sleeping he also will call... then mother in law keep waiting to wake her up.... always treat her like doll like that!
they do not have any exp taking care of baby (my hubby was taken care by his ahma) then want to act like know... keep saying tis saying that... all from the hearsay of others!
baby want to sleep & drinking milk also keep calling her! then got to keep telling them to call her when she want to sleep or drink milk... cos very distracting to her...
everytime complaint to hubby, he's on parent in law side... tinks nuthing is wrong with what they doing.... it's very frustrating to talk to him !
Likewise at this stage, your baby needs milk and sleep most of all, if she keeps being distracted or disturbed how to have enough of both?
Secondly, you need your privacy when you sleep. He may think that its ok, but its NOT ok for you. Have a proper talk with your husband, because what he thinks is ok is NOT ok for you.
After confinement they also like to visit during the night because of my father in law's work. I told husband to ask them not to visit at night cos it's sleeping time for baby. And I dont want baby to get over-stimulated before bedtime. Say no use, they still keep coming. Then I had to be cruel to husband loh. Scold him and tell him that I am the one looking after baby not him or his parents. At night have to soothe crying baby very tiring! Now finally they stopped coming because we went to their house instead. And we can choose the timing.
I hate staying with my in laws too!!!!!!!
Just yesterday night, I was cleaning up for my baby boy... then suddenly he started crying ... N I realize he's actually pooping.... then my mother in law just come into my room and ask 'what happen'???? In not a very nice tone.... Being irritated I just replied 'i dont know'...
N when I wiped his face, she came n push my hand away n scold me that I'm not letting him breath!!! WTF. It's not the first time I handle my baby n I know what I'm doing... I felt so pissed when she push my hand away like that n scold me.. It's totally uncalled for. My baby cries not because I dont't let him breath, he's merely trying to take a poop.
Why must her reactions be so exaggerating???!!??
I know he's her grandson. BUT he's MY SON and I know how to handle him already.
When she push me away n scold me, I did not even say anything I just kept quiet to avoid quarrels when infact I'm boiling inside.
I dont't know how I'm gonna be 'nice' towards her after this incident...
She had indirectly shown her dismay at me ytd.. I just feel like 她看我不顺眼. I also can't stand her seriously. What a drama mama.
My mother in law has sweaty plams and arms. So after she carry dear son, behind his neck and head will be quite wet because of her sweat. Its a good thing that I dont't stay with her. But when we visit her, she will insist that she wants to help put dear son to sleep when he is sleepy. and every time after visiting her, his ezeama will act up. Told hub, he also dont't care. Or to say he even slap me in front of his friends when I told him that dear son need to sleep and with his friends going into the room, he will disturb his sleeping pattern. Even suggesting to him that his friends could come earlier instead of 10 plus 11 at night.
Anyway back to the topic, I guess there is nothing much we can do except to accept. Booo~
Normal to have diff view & opinion when staying with ILS.. Hubby also Kelian cos sandwich in between.
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