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Does anyone have a hubby who works shifts? I just had a baby and still on maternity leave. Ever since my baby was born, my hubby seems to be very tired after his shifts. So much so that sometimes I feel neglected and feel like I'm taking care of the baby myself. I'm going back to work in a months time and would definately need all the help I can get. Am I being too demanding? How would you approach the issue? Any advice?
I think maybe he is just tired... maybe you can ask someone to go your place & help you out...
I can manage with the chores and baby, but just wished he could spend more time playing with the baby and being around me.
I can say guys r more visual person.
like my hubby he didnt help alot when i gave birth. he will give excuse like, i scare i hurt the baby, i dont know how to do this do that.
I will tell him this is also my first time, y i can learn n you cannot.
but i realise by saying all this it doesnt help.
BUT when our girl is older n she start calling papa n respond n noiw just started walking. Things changed.
He started helping out w/o mi asking.. I think tts man. Not all but some. when they see baby grow up n can start to interact they will auto help out, no matter how tired.
now im pregnant with 2nd baby n im mentally prepared that he will not help out with the newborn but i know at least now he will help out abit here n there for our girl.
stay happy n watch your baby grow...
they really grow very very fast....
my husband work rotating shifts, 7 to 3, 3 to 11, 11 to 7, every 3 days, rest one day and change shift.
when i first give birth, nobody help me, tho my parents in law came from msia, but they came to cause more harm than help. In the end, I nearly got depression.
Even now my husband still work shift, he always complaint of tire, no time to entertain me. He need to work, even on weekends and PH, cos the shifts are rotating, best part is, he cannot take urgent leave, his leave have to take one month in advance so that they can do duty roaster.
But i got use to it . When he doing morning shift, he come fetch me, we can have more time together. Of cos we do quarrel, but is more becos of his stupid sister staying at our house creating trouble than becos of ourself.....
So you have to learn to take the best out of the worst............like I always treat my sister In law as my child from previous life, I need to love her since I am her mother
Thanks for the advice. We did have a chat about it and me being the emotional one is always in tears while explaining. I guess he's new to the parenting role and like some of you said, men will help when the kid is bigger.
tho you may not be able to see him often, but you can still do little things to remind him your present
like if my husband work nite shift, sometimes around 12 midnight, I will sms him, I love him, does he feel lonely tonite....I feel lonely cos he not around that kind of things........kekekkekkeke..........
good things is, if I need to go medical checkup or what, if he wk afternn shift or nite shift, tho tire, he will still go w me.
AND..he work shifts too.. One week only one day off..when he come home baby sleeping, when baby wake up he still sleeping, then when he wake up need go work ..so equals to one week only see one day..sigh..