Koala bear??? LOL. Can you teach me in more details please????Why he DIY when he had a sweet wife? Is it becos he got some problem that he dont't want to disclose to you? Maybe he cannot substiate?
Encourage him, Help him, tell him you can "service" him, me and my husband always discuss the event (sometimes we will make an appointment for it), before, during and after it, so that we can improve on it, even if he did not perform, I will inform him, told him to make it up the next time (IOU).
But when he is good, I will often give him many words of encouragement so that he feel very great of himself.
Men r all like that, you only can crash with them when you know that you already grip their hearts, before that happen, you need to pretend to be understanding, pretend that you will always compromise, when you find out that they can't live w/o you, that's the time for payback. A few of my colleagues used this trick that I taught them, now their husbands r hanging on to them like kolar bear.