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babylove, if you need someone to talk to, I can be there for you.
Look at the more positive side, life is short.
My dear husband aso neglected me very badly for a long period BUT does that mean i got the rite to go fling or affair n say "sorry it my fault but it is bcoz you neglect me so i went for affair" When there is a prob the couple should tok out about it n even communicate doesnt works, there r still many other ways instead help yourself make xcuse to go do mistakes.
I understand how you feel? I still have difficulty trusting my dear husband and I can't bring myself to forgive him. Atleast yr dear husband admitted his mistakes but mine didnt.
I understand how you feel. I was betrayed once from someone I trusted 100% & with my life.
He admitted hes wrong, never to do it again.
He promise he'll not do it again.
He reports where he goes all the time.
Be very attentive...But that doesnt mean he is forgiven...
this scar (betrayal) I receive from him will be with me to my death.
Maybe you should remind him that although you have forgiven him, doesn't mean that your memory about this incident is gone. It'll always be in your heart & mind...it's like a burnt mark..dont't expect immediate forgiven & forget....cos like a wound, it takes time to heal. Even if it has healed, it'll leave scar too.
For you to feel better about it, he has to put in effort to prove that he really loves this family & you. Show LOVE. Not just bullshi*t.
He has to earn his trust.
Not just a sorry or a cut for you & thats it, he has redemed his sin...thats not so easy...cos what he has is superficial..what you have is not.
I can tell you, until now I havent fully forgiven him.
It just hurts too much.
As for the sex part you give...he should earn for it..not want then take it from you. I think if he do some nice things to earn for it, the hatred you have for him won't be as bad as he just do it with you cos of his needs.
Tell you. If my man dares to do sucha thing, be it thai prostitutes or local, as long sleep ANOTHER WOMAN, he's OUT OF MY LIFE. For good.
thanks everyone.. we had a tough month, on and off there is argument. We talk about divorce one and off.. he will ask for forgiveness, and later few days later, when he is tired of this relationship, he also will initiate divorce.. i m so tired now.
yesterday, he shared with me that he might need to go thailand for 1 day conference coming saturday. I felt so sad.. he said he told the boss if he can ask his RO for permission. I told him, i leave it to him to decide.. he ask me to join in for the trip, i told him i wish i could.. I also wish to forgive him(the pastor prayed for me just the day before for heart of forgivness towards him).
this morning, i ask him if the trip is confirmed. he told me no, he will email the boss to say he can go later when he back to office, if he needs to go.. but i went to check his email secretly .. he already send the email out this morning.. why is he lying to me again?
for lies, if you wanna know i tink confront him else .. dont check cos wen you check already, n you dont wanna ask him.. you will feel terrible yourself, so what for make yourself suffer.. if you check n confront him or else TRY to trust him, cos basic trust in e most important ting in marriage ..
i know he have lie to you thus you are scare on trusting him but tats e only way out, would you rather ease your heart to trust him rather then being worried everyday of him going to find women all tis.. do you tink you would feel better in that way ? or in e first way ??
e following road you have to choose yourself, to continue you have to somehow trust him a little then asking everyday, mostly guys dont like wifes to keep asking about his whereabouts .. i mean mostly , maybe our TB daddy likes LOL haha ...
btw do take care =) cny is coming, enjoy e season happily with your family .. so dont worry to much, if he truly loves you n e kids, he wont do that again anymore =D dont make yourself living in paraniod(donno how to spell haha) cheer up kk
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yea, go with him. Go for the trip.
I think it'll help release the tension between you too.
You can help him pack his things too. get more involve with his daily stuffs...pull-in the gap between you & him.
Of cos also tell him that you need time to forgive the matter, but doesn't mean you will take it as nothing had happened. He has to work hard to gain back your trust. Not just a sorry will do.
I understand how you feel, cos someone whom I am very close & trusted 200% with crash me with similar news too last year.
I feel terribly hurt...It's like a perfect picture being ruined with a splash of paint that no longer can be save.
I can say the picture will no longer be the same...I detest that picture! Hate him for betraying my trust. I didn't even want him near me nor talk to him.
But I have promised someone to forgive him..it wont be so easy ...he needs to do alot of hardwork..but doesnt mean he'll be forgiven. 10yrs? 20yrs? I dont know...
Yeah, its true that sometimes said is easier than done. Maybe even my dear husband do these to me, I might forgive him again and again.... Who knows? Just for the sake of loving him and for the sake of my dear daughter.... But once again, like what I said previously, there's no definite answer until the day I experience it myself......
But still, everyone ought to be given a 2nd chance, if this chance he never appreciate, then i suggest you both have a cooling off period first.
from here, you can slowly decide on what you really want to do or decide.
God bless you and hope you & yr dear husband can work things out & live happily with yr own children.
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