This is a discussion on dear husband engage with prostitues within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; [quote=babylove;48367]hi elaine01, can you share with me how you forgive him and willing to take him back?[/quote i removed my ...
[quote=babylove;48367]hi elaine01, can you share with me how you forgive him and willing to take him back?[/quote
i removed my ring. i told him the day he sees the ring on my finger again, i've forgiven him. it took at least 6 months when he's clear of HIV.
lotsa cold war..........he was super sweet, super nice, super thoughtful. after i put on the ring again, forget ........lax .
If you forgiven him already then no pt think of whether he is sorry or watever. Keep thinking will only make yourself upset so why make yourself unhappy when you can choose to b happy?
i remembered i dreamt another woman naked in bed with us. i asked if he & that woman has.........then i woke up.i wanted to know very badly if he strayed when i was pregnant. but i told myself if no, good . if yes, what can i do? it's irreversible. i will be sad again. so i never ask him.
If you decide to forgive him, then dont't think of the past anymore. It's tough but you have to try, for the sake of your marriage & your child. dont't bear the sorrow alone, get support from friends & family. Find someone you can talk to.
But if you really think it's too painful to pretend nothing happens, just leave him cos when he sleep with another woman, he already compromised the committment to you & family. But never think of committing suicide cos hubby will get over it after a while, but the damges on the child is permanent.
I like this song 解脱 from -mei and I find the lyrics very meaningful. Sometimes we have to learn to just let go and dont't hurt the people who really love us.
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