hehe I dont
Do you have any interesting blogs to share?
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Hi mummies, just to randomly go around to ask whether do you post a blog to bitch about your spouse?
hehe I dont
Do you have any interesting blogs to share?
No I dont't..........
i dont. cos i feel that there is no need for outsider to know my family affairs. i dont blog it out, i dont post in on my facebook. if i want to complain, i have a private blog which is set up for hubby and me. it is locked. only both of us can access.. =)
uhh no i wont bitch about my spouse on the blog.
if i really have so much unhappiness about him, i'll prob just D already.
well, anything im unhappy about, i'll just let him know straight in the face n then grumble to my gfs.
mm..just to unload things here ..
i have fell down and fractured my left ankle bone and right foot..and have been on cast for both feet for the past 6 weeks ((thats why you suddenly very free..post alot of threads in the forum..hahaha))
what happened was that i fell down with my son in my arm while walking (hubby go park car), its on flat ground..underneath hdb flat..it was so painful that i cannot even stand up..
so i gotta call him to comedown to the block and fetch me..managed to limp home by placing my hands on his shoulders and took the lift to go home...he did ice compress for me...and chided me for being too exagerrating the pain when its just a sprain...
i wanted to go A&E as all clinics are closed on a sunday..but he said go 24 hours clinic instead as A&E need to wait..
by then i really couldnt walk..that he have to do a fireman lift to carry me from the carpark to the clinic..and whent the dr @ 24hr clinic saw me with the swelling almost half the size of an egg, he darenot even touch me and straight away say "you go A&E immediately"
anyway when i was hospitalised, hubby did came and did once made this comment that "becos of me alot of ppl became very busy"
its not that i wanted to fall down and make ppl busy..i would have fell on one leg if not for my son...,
i am now staying at my parents place as they house is more wheelchair frenly and everything is flat ground...dont need to step up/ down when going to toilet or kitchen
i just removed my right cast 4 days ago..did practice walking with the frame around the house..and the walk with the frame with my left cast still on..it was so painful..and hubby said in front of my parents that i am very lazy dont exercise...walau..wtf!
i have not been on my foot for 6 weeks..and here i am, kena his impatient and unloving comments..just like his stoopid father..nothing good comes out of the mouth
and my actually quarrelled with him on the spot..
he is a very objective driven person..outcome oriented..
im going to start a blog to complain the nasty things about him...
By blogging it , what you want to achieve as a outcome ?
To remind yourself about the nasty things he does ?
Then what next ?
I think better not ... Later see more , remenber more and get more angry only ...
But you can vent your anger here . everynow and then . We will cheer you up ...
actually me thinking of getting a separation
Are things really so serious that you need a separation?
Is it just his character that he doesn't know how to show concern? Is he trying to talk/joke when he say things like you are lazy? some pple just dont't know how to communicate. Maybe you should let him know how you feel first and see if things gets better?
Chiro think some guys are born to b insensitive it's part of their character traits that can't b changed but I'm sure he loves you if not he wouldn't even have bothered doing the fire man lift.. my hubby speaks without thinking about my feelings too at times but I know he still loves us in his unique way.. you needa catch a breather... Will arrange with dom if can meet you kopi session soon!
you r right..he and his stoopid father dont know how to express themself...and to show concern...
i did try to let him know how i feel but he just say that its an excuse blah blah blah
he is an achiever, sets high standards for himself and expect others to keep up 100%..like to ask "why", "why you say this and that" , "you should have said this" and "how" but when explain oredi..told me "this is not an excuse" or "no logic"
maybe he got engineering background...(sorry if i have stepped on toes of engineers) so everything around him must be in logical sequence..orderly..conversations must flow..and not jump around ( i very high I, so talk alot and my points jump around)
so i very fed up , i told him that I am I, he cannot expect me to talk in the way he wants to/ would understand
and when i talk i just talk..i dont draw imaginery lines to connect what i said so that they would make sense..
so now when he ask "why/ how" i will tell him "i would not explain anything if everything time you classify them as excuses"
anyway i am now at my parents place..enjoying hahaha..
he did want me back home as one cast have been removed..but my parents dont allow cos they cannot imagine what nasty things he will say to me..worse..coupled with his stoopid father...who talks like a woman..everything also must ask "why and how" as if it will affect his meat or his down there..he just ask for fun and want to have his say..and his say is not edifying or encouraging to ppl at all...he was man of few words in the house until my son comes along..
really regretted stayin with in laws...
my friend told me "you can choose your hubby, but cannot choose your in laws, buy one, get two free...one is a dog, the other is a bitch"
anyway, i sabotage his blog by posting some comments about him..ahhahaha for all to see..and have customise my settings on facebook so that he cannot view my wall and i can bitch about him
Hmmm. Your husband sound like me instead as I am of Engineering background . Grad with EEE ... Sometimes my hubby tries to explain and i will say "No Logic" . . You should do this , then this then after that this . hahahah ..
But my hubby does irriated me with all the little little actions he does.
Well , i will payback with interest most of the time too ...
At the end of the day , your hubby do luv you . If not will not carry all the way to the clinic
When we get marry , must accept the person as a whole package .
As long as he never cross that invisible line that lead to divorce , i think just work on the marriage..
Or do you have your own flat?? sometime is better to NOT stay with in law... because for some reason.. it will affect your own marriage... maybe you try talk to him about this for one last time?? see if anything can be change for the better? as for Blogging... for me.. is because i just wanna vent it out instead of keeping inside me.. making me unhappy... you can try to blog.. is good...
the flat is in my name..sigh..
now trying to see whether got alternatives to get the old man out or not..like buying elderly apartment for him etc...
listen to their nonsense make me buay song..and if i rebuke makes me look non filial..so now im really enjoyin my life at my parents place
probably will talk when time is right ...my mum told me to stop at 1 child hahaha...
QUOTE" maybe he got engineering background...(sorry if i have stepped on toes of engineers) so everything around him must be in logical sequence..orderly..conversations must flow..and not jump around ( i very high I, so talk alot and my points jump around)
my hubby is an engineer , totally understand the systematic or formulated brain they have... Sometimes they dont really understand that their words can be very hurting and they even know that!!
However Engineers have their good and bad as well, I believe that they are nice hubby and daddys who take good care of their families as compared to some "salesman" (not to pin point on the job) but ppl who can speak very well and create alot of problem in their marriage...
Just my two-cents worth of thought... Cheerios
hahah..glad to know that i am not alone..
sometimes i see friends' hubbies comforting them on facebook on minor things like maybe spilling a cup of coffee over newspaper..but mine ? will tell me i shld not have put my status as xxx"
the fact is i dont care....now he cannot see what i post haahhahaha.. hope our common friends will not shoot me by copy and pasting what i put in my status...
hahaha understand... our hubbies are totally not this type... that is why when he suddenly do the laundry i got pleasant surprise!! very sweet feeling hehe... i learnt to treasure moments like this and understand "engineer hubby"