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Hi, what do you feel if you r married but still yearn for clubbing once in a while? Any mummys who still club even after after married n hav kids? Ever feel guilty? Will you announce to ppl that you r married or says nothing? Anyone goes clubbing n hugged someone else?
What is your view?
i still go to salsa clubs to dance salsa, which is a couple dance. but i prevent myself from doing those flirtatious sexy moves, which i find it distasteful whether i'm married or not. so after a dance with guys, it just ends there. so nothing much.
as for those normal clubs, i'll just enjoy with my own friends. i usually give other stranger guys the 'f***ed up' face so no one will come near me. lol! i'm not interested anyway. hmm... before i'm married or after, i dont't like to get touchy with random people. if they come, i'll totally ignore. i like going clubbing and i have no qualms just dancing alone and enjoying the music.
i would feel a bit guilty for leaving my son at home so that my mother in law look after. but i reason to myself that it's night time and it's my son's long sleep of 5hours. so that's not very demanding.
anyway, whether is it in clubs or not, i'll make sure i remain a role model to my child, regardless whether he is there to see or not. i enjoy salsa as an art form. i enjoy dancing to club music as an art form. as for alcohol, i have yet to take any as i'm still breastfeeding. haha! but i'm dying for some german beer and german food though...
i will announce i'm married if asked. but i dont't think i'll be asked as i dont't approach anyone or allow anyone to approach me.
I think it's fine to go clubbing after marriage but not hugging someone else behind your spouse's back. Maybe I am narrow minded, I won't like it if my hubby hugs another woman so I won't do it myself.
After giving birth, I have given up clubbing. My time is dedicated to work and family. I already feel bad that I dont't get to spend much time with my daughter because of work so I try to spend time with her whenever it is possible.
If I want to meet my friends, I will bring her along. Kids are growing at such amazing rate, I really dont't want to miss out those moments.
I guess it's up to individual, personal time is a necessity to some people. I just do my stuffs during breaks at work or after daughter has fallen asleep. Work is stressful and parenting is not easy but seeing the smiles on my daughter's face is all worth it
still club or ktv once every 2 mths or more when its my friend's bday. mindset is totally different now. i get tired @12am.
not guilty as its a form of relieving stress as well.
But now am more reserved.
Not much clubbing as i find it too tiring, but will still go with hubby and ktv-ing with friends after work, like twice a month. Initially will feel guilty, but its hubby who encouraged me to go, to destressed, so now im fine with it.
Normally i will just enjoy myself with my girl friends but there is one occassion where i got a bit physical with guys. there are hugs involved and im feeling guilty about it. What should i do? my husband koes that i club.....
i have that feeling that deep down, i yearn for freedom and that kind of attention which i dont koe why because my husband is good to me....
anyone in same situation with me?
as an Asian and being conservative, i feel that it is not right and you just have to suppress it. before i marry and when i was attached, i did a bit of physical stuff and felt guilty. so after marriage, it's totally no! unless i'm dancing salsa, but that's a totally different concept.
if your husband knows, how would he react? you will never know that your actions might be seen by his family members or his friends. singapore is small..
or why not go clubbing with your husband and get physical with him? =)
I also have this feeling of yearning for freedom. But tell yourself, you'll regret if you chooses freedom over family. what can you do will freedom without family? You can have your freedom of going clubbing, at least your husband knows about it. But dont go overboard. Overboard once is enough to blow your family apart.
At least yours is a HUG, treat it as you're in a western country, hugs is common. but dont go further. And if possible, avoid hugs also.
When I keep quiet, doesn't means I know nothing about what is going on~!!
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stop going and you wont think bout it anymore
I stopped going after dating hubby. He's not into clubbing and very much prefer to chat over a nice cup of coffee. Slowly, I find myself drawn to that and no longer yearned to go clubbing.
Hi, i think i knw what you mean coz at times i have d same feeling as you... Its just a kind of 'dat moment feeling' dat you want to hug another guy coz they gv a diff feeling compared to your hubby's... Its just curiousity n temptation dat gv you tis kind of feeling wen you go clubbing...
I do love my hubby but sometimes wen you go out with guys, you just want to pretend you r single n flirt around with those guys dat catches your eyes or attention dat they gv you but all i can say is if you go clubbing less, this feeling will go off. Mayb i should say try putting yourself in your hubby's shoe. If you knw he goes clubbing n hugs a gal, hw wld you feel? If you tell me frm d bottom of your heart you dnt feel jealous or angry then i will say you dnt love your hubby anymore. As for telling ppl whether you r married anot, i wldnt announce to everybody there. I wear a wedding band so i dnt feel a need to announce. Anyway clubbers dat you knw there r just aquaintance, not ppl close to you dat you have to tell everything. just kip it short n simple dat you r married. But if knwing dat you r married n they still want to get close to you, i dnt have to say as you knw what kind of person he is n what he wans.
just remb dat go clubbing, there r alot of temptationsssss. just knw what you r doing n just let loose n njoy yourself. Going clubbing doesnt mean get flirting with guys. There r music n dance dat make you happy with your frnd around...
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no movies, no clubbing, no pubbing, no alone time
Anyway, going back to the TS question, I dont't go clubbing anymore - I used to when I was single and unattached but after I got a boyfriend and especially after marriage, I just stopped. I'd go out for drinks with my then-boyfriend, now-hubby but no clubbing - hard to chit chat with all that noise. Now that we're married, maybe just a drink at home or coffee outside but that's it. No regrets. After all, I'm a married woman with children - lifestyle has to change one way or another.
Last edited by meiteoh; 05-04-2011 at 04:45 PM.
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I dont think i will be going to club after I have my baby. In fact even now after im married, I never go clubbing anymore.
i still go once in a long while. But will draw the line if some guys try to be funny.
not married, but i stopped all my night activities once baby is born.. only go for movie occasionally after baby is almost 2 yo..
Stop going since a few years back
I didnt go clubbing anymore ever since im pregnant. Clubbing is expensive and i need to save up money for baby.
I never go clubbing after married but will go KTV with hubby n friends. It is a form of releasing stress. Hubby doesn't go clubbing n doesn't allow me to go as he is afraid of guys trying to get to kw me as I dont't look married to most people.