This is a discussion on does your hubby chat up gals in the internet? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by bargainhunter3 Do a google search for some freeware that logs the website he visit to a file... ...
actually i think it's no point checking and tracking. cause if your hubby/bf happens to like flirting around, no matter what you do, he will also be flirting around... jiang shan yi gai, ben xing nan yi...
Agree, no point checking. If you cannot take it, discuss about it. Else it is down to trust between the both of you.
No point checking up on him, confront him, then argue, end result is the same, though more painful.
Ever since he kena caught during our 7th years of marriage (Chinese called the 7th year itch 七年之痒), all hell broke loose and he never dare touch these chats again. So do I...
I ever told him if I ever catch him betraying me, i will have a child but not his. He won't know until the day before his death, i will release this news to him. Cruel..? Humph...
sigh.... what if he denies n says is just simply chatting (but to me, is flirting)? n he says there's nothing between them n him? some time in month may tis year, he told me he will stop chatting with tis gal (i caught him msning with a gal) n to give him another chance. recently, i found out that he has joined 'tagged' n befriend more gals!! when i confronted him, he denied until i showed him the internet history.. now, he said he will stop all these chatting once and for all. can believe his words? i dont trust him anymore but my mum keep asking me to give him another chance (for the kids' sake) n see how he 'behaves'.
pinkdaisy mummy, my encounter is similiar to yours... i also confronted him but he just simply denied... he even can gave lame excuses... i also dont trust him as much now... i just dont understand these men... they have a wife and children and yet still want to fool around... i am so upset that i am considering to do the same things to them, too...
oh dear, you r married only for about 2 yrs n now carrying his child n he still like that... y they got so much to talk to those gals but nothing to say to their wife? is it becoz the gals posed sexy pix by revealing their boobs or squeezing up their boobs n it turn the guys on?
There is no hiding when a man's behavior changed, you will know.
Usually very troublesome if a man got into these chatting stuffs, especially when these chats lead to meeting up later.
When it comes to women, men think with their dicks, not all men of coz but regardless... best to cut it off early. I nearly lost the marriage (it all began with these kinda internet chats, that time was ICQ) during our 7th year, but we managed to save the marriage, takes both hands to clap, one has to realise, another has to forgive...
Last edited by shiseru; 22-08-2009 at 09:17 PM.
I trust he doesnt and he hasnt done anything to make me suspect otherwise. I have seen how busy he is making conference calls at home with me using the PC beside him and he's also trying to help around at home so that I can rest more. Dont think he has energy for other things.
But if you ask me if I can accept such things, then no.
I think I should share this with your girls…
Last week my husband went to kl for a meeting, his job requires him to go kl quite often starting last month. When he return to Sg on Friday and I check on his phone. Yes I agree I’m wrong to check on his personal stuff. To my horror, I saw he call this girl at KL, he call 5 times but I think the girl did not pick up cos the history shows only conversation at the last call. The previous 4 calls was aborted. This girl was at kl holding a Malaysia no.
This girl was in his MSN, n I happen to know they r chatting before we married. Their conversation basically not flirting as I log in to his msn before. Now no more cos I know is bad. But somehow I know he n she can chat quite well. I almost forgot about this girl after we got marry last year cos on n off I check his phone, nothing suspicious. Only once which was months. I dont want to confront him that time cos I think he might just hav something to ask this girl n since no conversation found I just close my eye.
But my limit bust last week when I saw him calling her 5 times eventhough only last call ended in a conversation for about 2 minutes. Y should he call? Some more this girl is only a msn friend.
I ask him cos I dont feel comfortable on this. I ask him who is this girl. He said is a friend he knew years back during a activity at Malaysia. I ask him y he call her, he said he want to ask the road at kl (he is not driving but taking flight and cab to his customer side). Then I ask him then y he call her last month that he was at sg Then he said nothing ask me dont think much. I just dont feel comfortable. Am I over suspicious or is that a so call woman instinct?
On Monday he change his phone to password which I cannot access anymore. I ask him y, he said I intrude his privacy n he dont like me to check. I shout at him ,if you got nothing to hide y you need to put a password n we hav a big argue. Because a girl in a msn he shout at me.
I dont know issit because very inconvenient to hav password on phone or other reason, he remove the password on Tuesday.
Am I over suspicious? I just dont feel comfortable… N I start to feel that they chat more often than I think. I dont even chat with him in msn during office hr cos he always tell me he bz. But yet he can chat with her n got her number. Her number was not inside his phone book before that, I believe is newly add in.
misstheblue, no matter how we confront the men, they sure say 'nothing, we r just kicking up a big fuss '.... n then they will say 'is just friends between me n tis gal'... we really cant do anything unless you engage a PI to check up on him... sometimes i try to check my hubby's hp but almost all the calls (missed, received n dialled) have been deleted... even smses also... so really very difficult to check... once they r out of our sight, out of the house, they can do anything they want...we wont know.. there r very few men who r faithful n can resist tempations..
if you cant prove or find solid evidence, maybe you wanna close one eye n let it rest.
Just wondering what do man really want.. Married but still wanna fool around, when kena caught,die die dont want admit.. and to all those woman who like to seduce pple husband, pls for goodness sake stop breaking happy family up... Well, actually it takes both hand to clap..
mayb we women wanna do the same thing to them too so that they wil feel how we felt? hehe.. =p
Last edited by Feliz; 03-09-2009 at 05:49 PM.
agree w pink daisy...not many men can resist e temptations...but of course such things takes 2 hands to clap as well...so those girls r at fault as well...
watever e case...i think we shld always give our hubby benefit of e doubt...unless we can find concrete proof....
You will know when your man's behavior changes, called it the "women" 6th sense.
Most of the guys are idiot .... y their d**k must be so itchy .... frankly speaking if they really itch dont have to wait until the 7yr of marriage right ....
hmmm, does the 7 year itch apply to women too?? just wondering......
Yes, 7th year itch can apply to woman, one of my friend got an affair outside, reason is bcoz husband cannot give her an orgasm.
As for me, it's a long story but i have to say the reason why our marriage has gone south, i had to bear part of the responsibility, i was so busy that I have neglected my family, hence...
mistheblue, i share with you my story but briefly, coz if i tell the whole story, i can write a series of trilogy.
I taught my hubby ICQ, he came to know this lady from JB, he was learning driving in JB so often went in to Malaysia.
When I sensed something was wrong, I checked his chat history. When he realised, he deleted. I created a new user in ICQ and managed to befriend this lady.
The lady told me she loved my husband but my husband didnt seem willing to get further involved. After a good 3 months, all he did was to hold hands, and she was always the one who has to take initiative.
This was also the reason why I wanted to stop this thing and saved the marriage before further mistakes were made.
I confronted my husband, initially we decided to divorce but at the same time we understand each other too well. Both of us knew we will regret later if we chose to divorce. We were determine to save this marraige together, I have resigned and found another job so i can have more time with my family and he has stopped all communication with the lady (change his hp, deleted ICQ).
God has put us both through this ordeal and we both managed to overcome. But again it takes both hands to clap, one to realise, and one to forgive. Most importantly, both of you are serious, and willing to put in effort to save the relationship/marriage.