This is a discussion on feeling angry and stressful! within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by diymummy LOL!!!! Your friend is smart. Old folks also like that.. want to build army.. Go around ...
Hi Regina, I hope your mum will continue to wear her mask when dealing with your son. Like what diymummy said, I think old folks dont like to admit their mistakes publicly but after quarrelling with you they'll still do what you suggested if they think it makes sense.
Regarding cooking with MSG, actually like what CMG suggested, you can try out sauces and pastes (which I use to make food taste better). Although sauces are also still not that healthy due to the sodium content but I think it's still better than MSG... My mum, mother in law and I dont use MSG but our food still can taste nice so I dont think food needs to be cooked with MSG to taste yummy. Maybe you can take over the kitchen just for a day (tell her that you think she needs to relax once in a while), cook some delicious food without MSG to show your mum that it can be done? Glad to know that she's at least cutting down the amt of MSG. That's a great start to better health!
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my mother in law dont use MSG at all and her cooking is quite bland. my hubby only stayed with us for 2yrs + but he is now so used to my mum's MSG cooking and said mother in law's cooking not nice. -.-"""
regina, maybe your mum is gg thru menopause. that time my mum also like that, keep on making noise n very bad temper (cos her temper usu is not so short, n she have high tolerance level). she just went nuts n start screaming n shouting over small issues.. even at pin til pin also scared. then she went doc n took some medication, now ok already.
Asking old folks to go see a doctor esp about something like menopause can be quite a sensitive issue and might make the situation more stressful sometimes.... :x
i think it was my dad who spoke to my mum about it.. n my mum was ok with it....cos she also can feel the "stress" n mood swings..
that time she was like that, i also say her, i tell her you isit menopause? why your temper so bad?? then she also sit down n think properly..
menopause is really very stressful. even for other family members.
Ting i agree with your say.. indeed, i suspect my mum is going thru menopause.. her 'fire' can just suddenly shoot up!! but like what diymummy said, not all elderly can 'accept' ppl telling them to see doc.. esp when it comes to menopause..my mum's menses has been irregular so i suspect it's menopause.. but when i told her she said i talk nonsense, she is just stress that's why irregular...
maybe suggest to her see doc to see why her menses irregular? my mum's doc prescribed her medication n she is much better now. not so easily erupt~
for me is not scary, just damn sian cos she goes arnd making noise n nagging then end up screaming.. very spoil mood....-.-"
no point suggesting her to see doc.. she always think that she is very healthy, even when i suggest her to see a specialist for her prolonged cough, she also can cough me haha.... so i doubt she will go to a doc for her irregular menses.. now i only pray hard that this period will go off soon
Hehe... This period might take long to subside without medication....
My mom is also a very stubborn hard nut to crack. I have a nick name for her "Ci Xi" (the empress). Now, I try another indirect tactic. Instead of telling her this is her problem, I just find a good chance and share with her a 3rd person story. Sometimes, I comment on the TV role.. then spin-off from there like
"Aiyo, drama like real life. My colleague's mother also similar like this role ... etc etc...." Actually I'm referring to her, but I change the "plot" here and there so it won't resemble her too much... Even sometimes when she's smart, she knows I'm referring to her, but it doesnt matter too much since she got "stairs to go down" (though she get pissed off too but kept quiet)...
Or maybe if there is really a friend whose mom also went thru menopause, good to get your friend to share about her mom, but finding the most casual right time for the "sharing" is impt, cannot be too deliberate. (Sometimes, I wait for weeks before finding the right opportunity... sigh.. *stressed up*)
I'm not sure this tactic is good or not, but so far, it's kinda of works well on my mom. Until she come up with new pattern, i stick to this one for the time being...
'Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.'If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.Happy moments, praise God.Difficult moments, seek God.Quiet moments, worship God.Painful moments, trust God.Every moment, thank God.The will of GOD will never take you where the GRACE OF GOD willl not protect you!!!
You can get supplements meant for menopuasal women. It's natural herbs to help control their hormones. No harm giving it a try. There's also chinese tonics for menopause, I know my mum takes some funny soup.
You buy the supplements then tell her it is health supplements!! HEhehe... Can improve memory and vitality. :P