I really think your husband is being really inconsiderate. If he cant forget his first love. Then why get married in the first place and waste your time? I think ppl who decides to get married to another shld love him/her whole heartedly... from the information you've given about, he seems to be really in love with her in the past. And i believe you can't 'just be friends' with someone you love deeply before. Do you have kids together with him already?