This is a discussion on Giving mother in law $$$ within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Hi mummies.. do you as Daughters in laws give monthly $$ to your mother in law even your hubby already give? or ...
do you as Daughters in laws give monthly $$ to your mother in law even your hubby already give? or you dont give?n how much if you give?
on new year, do you give her ang pao or hubby give? if give, how much usually?
just thinking if im a bad Daughter in law. haha.
we dont go back and only meet once a month and we not close, imagine she never calls to ask about me since being pregnant. only call hubby and ask how is baby.
she is not nasty just naggy.
Yeah.. Agreed with spiralng..
Once you started to give than you cant stopped even if you're very tight.. Some in-laws they won't think of your financially, they will only think of themself and who knows they might be talking bad behind you if you give them less or no increment..
But i so envy you can see your in-laws that less, if my 2nd gal is back staying with us, think i also rather see them once in a month or once in a blue moon better..
I never give her because im not working now.
I intend to take care of my baby myself because i have certain expectations and i dont think her old method of taking care of baby pleasee me and i dont think she can be taught at all because she will always try to override and think she is always right.
So i think why give her since she is not very poor and we dont go back to eat at all.
my mother in law also never ask about my pregnancy or baby, but my father in law got ask when i visit.
for ang bao usually my hubby and i combine it into one, we give $200 to both mother in law and father in law.
nope i dont. even if i goes back to work force in future, i also wont give. i'll only give my parents and hubby give his... as for CNY, hubby give i dont... my parents i give.... aiya anw also hubby's money cos i no wk... haha!
er..its between her son n her
money is never enuff to ppl like them..
i will never give my mother in law money, even if am working. she never ask anything about me nor baby. and baby is coming out soon also never ask is all the things prepare already anot..
when i was working, i give my parents monthly allowance, but when i gave birth and become stay at home mum, hubby volunteered to give my parents allowance...same amt as to how much i was giving them...sometimes more...
wah very good qn...
i dont think bf will ask me to give, he sure tell me he give enuf already.
but if she's a nice mother in law, i will buy stuffs for her n bring her out for meals.
Better dont give if not you will be very regret...
I dont't mind buying stuffs or bring her out to dine but why do I need to give mother in law allowance??? T__T
I only give allowance to my mum but not to my mother in law and I encourage my hubby to give his mother monhtly allowance if he can afford too.
Some husband may be unhappy about wife giving allowance to her mum, or vice versa.
My hubby will give allowance to his mum while I give to my own parents. But sometimes meals we will just pay for one another's parents or share. Ther was once which I wanted to give my mother in law money for a holiday travel with her friends. I think that she wont take fm me so eventually I never offer.
i do give my mother in law money. ever since i pregnant with my 1st baby. i have 2 baby and she tk good care of them. i can go to work withour worries.
my hubby tk care of whole house expenses. thus he dont give money. i give mother in law money allowance quite an amt, new year i give ang bao.. i just felt more or less she need some money to use. morever she go groceries herself when i cant go...
No i dont give mother in law allowance coz i dont see why i shld since hubby already giving. I'm not working now and dont even give my mum $ so why shld i give my mother in law?
Anyway, since i became preggie my mum didn't want allowance from me though every now and then i gave her some coz that time i was still working. Now that i'm not working, i dont give her allowance anymore and neither does my hubby but my mum understands so she doesn't say anything even though now she's retired. Glad i've got a great mom!
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maybe i just give to my hubby to give to mother in law together.. cuz myself i need to give my own grandmother and mother money also.. hmmm..
If both husband and wife have their respective parents around still, there could be an agreement that each give to their own parents. The money could be seen as coming from both. But be careful if the amount given differ. Parents may find out and compare, then politics will start.
Whatever amount, I think we should always sets aside some savings for ourselves as the family will grow, and kids come along. So by that happens, it is always not nice to cut back on allowance to parents.
My husband and I actually gave allowances to our own parents...
My mother is actually helping me to look after my boy and when my husband got his bonus, he will actually gave some to my mother to show his appreciation. As for my mother in law, she is actually working and earning a pretty comfortable salary (more than $2K) and she is also taking monthly allowances from her 2 children. And beside that her holidays are mostly sponsor by her children and she shelved off the responsibilities of looking after the grandchild by telling my husband to send my son to childcare... giving the excuse that she is money face...