Hello casandra, we have to sacrifice couple time to some extent after kids are born. It is very hard to have the best of both worlds as our kids are still very young and need alot of our attention.
For me, what we do is to set aside at least one day of each week for each other only. My mum-in-law will help to take care of my children while hubby and I spent time together alone.
I am very fortunate as my mum-in-law is a wonderful woman. She takes very good care of my kids and I do not have to worry about them when hubby and I go out pak tor. Can't imagine life without her. With her help, hubby and I are able to maintain a strong couple relationship
Why not leave your kids at home with your maid while the 2 of you go out and spend some quality time? Since you mentioned you r a working mum, I believe your 2 kids are taken care by your maid when you r at work.