This is a discussion on How much? Grandmother as caregiver? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; how much do you give yr mum/mother in law when they take care of yr baby day & night?...
how much do you give yr mum/mother in law when they take care of yr baby day & night?
i give my mum $600.. diapers n milk powder i provide..
or you can discuss with them.. c how nuch they want?
my mum say up to mi.. usually they wont ask much..
yeah normally mums/mother in law wont ask much.
perhaps you can ask them to give you a range?
my mum told me to give her $700. but hubby said just give my mum $500 & he told me to share with him the $500! at 1st i told my mum y not i give you $600 then she black face & say so little, now market price is $900 for day & nite yet i give so little..sign
anw, 700 is a very reasonable price but it all depends on your family financial. after adding on diapers and FM, you gonna prepare around 1k per month.. if the salaries added together, minus off everything only left about that amount for your mum, maybe discuss with her... but if your can afford to give that amount, why not?
yes, market price i heard about 800-900 for a start.
cos look after day n night.
hmmm, why dont you n your hubby look after your child at night yourself??
but i feel that your hubby shld zi dong abit.
afterall, your mum helping you take care of your child day and night.
if he dont want then ask him go fetch your son every night after work.
he cant have the best of both worlds. plus, 700 is much cheaper than outside rates.
also, if you can, try to bargain with your mum abit more.
if can settle at 600 then good.
now i can c that my mum dont like my hubby. she kept saying things like lucky my boy looks like me & not my hubby's ugly face! i was shocked when i heard what she told my dad!
i think you need to clear up the misunderstandings btw your mum n hubby first, if not it might get worst n you will get stuck btw.
i guess your mum is just upset cos he shouted at you, afterall, all parents r protective against their own children. if my mum see my bf do that, she sure to scold him right in the face! (but im always the fiercer one though hehe).
maybe ask your hubby to apologise to your mum?
but honestly, even if you give your mum 600, she will still tc of your son, cos its her grandson afterall, unless she wants your mother in law to tc.
or you maybe hint to her that, if need to give 700 then your hubby will ask his mum take care, see what she says??
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
a) his mum now taking care of 2kids(2yrs+ & 15mths) both very active & i feel that is dangerous for my son to be at her place.
b) my mum already told his mum that she will take care of my son when i was in hospital that time. his mum said even beta cos she got no energy to take care of 1more baby. (BUT if my hubby were to push my son to her, definately she will take care cos is her son's baby & she wont say no. but is definately out of question for me cos i dont like her way of taking care, very dirty).
are you on good terms with your mother in law?
maybe ask your mother in law tell hubby she cant tc of another child already?
wah your hubby n mum really cause a headache for you..
if it's me, i will also pek chek~