To treat your mother in law and spend more time with her sounds good since this is a way to improve the relationship with your mother in law. But the mother in law cannot use this to compare between daughter in law and that woman
I will voice out anything if that will hurt my feelings or affect our marriage to my husband, I encourage him to do the same. Communication and understanding the concerns and feelings of your loved ones is important to sustain trust and a healthy marriage. Men can be a little insensitive so it's good we tell them else they think it's okay to do so. Arr bo, how we survivie these 12 years of marriage?