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yea yea sounds like they are very similar! hehe. well... i dont cry easily unless its something bout hubby, my girl, my dog. then i will cry super duper easily! lol
Eh.... On second thoughts, did your mother in law encouraged this behaviour in the past? Maybe last time when your hubby & that woman were still dating, your mother in law praised her for doing such things, so she feels encouraged, so much so that even now both parties are married, she still continues to make your mother in law feel good. Is there any way to find out the past (how these treats started) from your hubby?
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but i heard korean man more da nan ren???
oh well.. korean eat dog meat also... they say it can keep them warm in winter.. i wonder when they will start to what human flesh since dog is a man's best friend? hehe
It will be best if you could have an open talk with your hubby. Although he said there is nothing between them but somehow you will never know or he/they will never know.
What if your ex bf did the same thing to you and your family, will your hubby be affected. If he is not then something is wrong.
Why not if she invites your hubby and mother in law again, tell you hubby your will come along. "Break up already still can be friend" very difficult .
break up be friend is not difficult at all~ almsot all my ex n me broke up cos they got another woman. im suppose to hate them but i never. they are ALL still my friend! we dont contact often though but then we DO contact n sometimes they does pour out their problems to me as well...
yeah i agree.
i have some ex bfs r also still my friends n we do talk on n off.
The nice side of me will say "go tell your hubby how you feel about it".
The evil side of me will say "when she askes them out again, go get a PI to follow them, send the evidence to HER FAMILY".
Given you 2 options to think about
PI not cheap right? my mum always say wanna look for PI cos she dont trust my dad's words lol
PI prices depends largely on how much 'leads' you can provide and what type of 'services' you need. If you are not using the evidence in court, it'll be much cheaper due to lesser paperwork/admin. If you can give a good lead to when & where to 'catch' the person & get the evidence you want, then it's very striaghtforward & of course cheaper.
any idea on the price range? as in cheapest to the most ex?
Why not asked your husband to invite her out for cup of tea and have a face to face 'conversation'. Indirectly telling her that you and your hubby relationship is very stable and both of you are happy with just each other company.
Correct me if I am wrong, did your husband give her a wrong impression about their friendship?
wow... 200.. thats rather reaonable! hehe. thanks stonston for the info!
yeah, $200 is considered very cheap...
try talk to your hubby again, if your hubby still think that you are overly sensitive then at least tell him that you want to tag along even the woman didnt invite you. After a few times, maybe the woman will realise that you will be together with hubby & mother in law for outings... if she has no ill intention then she will sowly invite you along , if she has some evil thought by that time she will do something else to disturb your family.Well, try not to go into hard way (eg: quarrel with hubby and ask him not to meet her again or what, i think it'll get worse because both hubby & mother in law thinks she is good. dont call her hubby first, you wont know if the woman will later on complain to your hubby that you disturb her family, it;s hard to tell what she will do unless you know her intention so best way is to go meet her a few times, get to know her first )
this is just my opinion. Hopes it helps.
Sorry, staying friends with an ex is one thing, being chummy with their parents and ex while excluding his/her new partner is another matter. It makes things very awkward for the other person's new partner and what's worse, it sends the wrong message across.
Her intentions may be innocent but people won't think that first. Instead, they - like me - would think that she's trying to get back with your hubby and into the good books of your mother-in-law.
I feel that your hubby should be more sensitive to their situation and cut all ties with her once and for all. If he says that it's nothing and that thousands of people keep in contact with their ex, then share this with him:
If you're single and you want to stay in touch with an ex, fine. There is no one else to keep in mind except you. But when you're married, there are some lines that need to be drawn and other people's feelings to consider. As a husband, his duty is to consider your feelings and protect & nurture your marriage together with you. That includes keeping out all "things" that can hurt or break your marriage. Why risk it? Is she that important to him?
I'm friends with my ex but since getting married, I limit my contact with him because I dont't want my hubby to have any reason to doubt my loyalty and faithfulness. If I were to meet up with my ex, it would be WITH my hubby and never alone.
Ask your hubby if he were truly comfortable if you did the same thing with your ex(s)?
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