Relax. Your hubby is exactly same as mine; like to laze around, watch TV and eat tidbits.
I'm also a first time mom to 4 mnths old baby girl and a working mom as well. I understand that it is really tiring for us to do house chores after came back from office.
Last time, i like to stay very neat and tidy. I dont't like the mess in the house. Now, I've to ignore some of the mess created by my hubby as I also have no time to clean up everyday.
I also used to nag to him this and that.. But it could only turn out to a quarrel rather than getting help. So now, i just keep quiet and do whatever I can do and leave some house chores to the weekend when I have more time.
And if he is free on the weekend, then I'll ask him to help around such as laundry and mopping and telling him that he can watch his TV afterwards.
My mom used to say that dont't compare who do what in the family. Just do what you can do. The more you complains the more unhappy you and your hubby. That is not good for the kid to see unhappy mom and dad at home..
So now, I not only close one eye but both eyes. Of course, sometimes I still nag.. But once the hubby knows how tired are we, I am sure they will help a little. dont't expect too much from them though.. The more we expect, the more we are unsatisfied. haha.. Just Thank God that he is working and earning well to provide the necessities. Compare to those husband and father with jobless, do gambling, having affair outside and abuse wife, they are still much better .. lol