wow tht's a good new... jia you jia you...
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Hello to all!
I just wanna share abit my happiness...
My dear husband has finally, fully, completely, enjoyed the company of my dear son...
Do i sound funny?
Not if you have encountered this problem before...
Coz when my dear son was an infant, he cries a lot. My dear husband does not help out nor coaxes him...coz he said he find him irritating and disturbing his sleep...so my dear husband has never ever enjoyed any moment during the infant days. I did all i could...one man show....since he did not helped out at all....yeah, maybe 1 out of 20 times he will help? Even when we go out together as a family he will not want to carry him either. So i could say both of us did not enjoy any moment when my dear son was younger....ended up with lots of quarrels about duties and responsibilites...
Now that its over and gone, i feel so happy and relaxed.....haha...finally see the light! (Tried and tested, went thru 6months' trial already, so far no more so called 'accidents')
Think they are enjoying each other's company better because my dear son has learnt to talk to his daddy more....good , at least i see some bonding around finally. I think it is also healthy for a 3-yr old's mental and physical development.
Shhhh...they are hugging each other to sleep...now in the room....hmmm...do i feel a bit jealous now???
wow tht's a good new... jia you jia you...
Yo yo! *clap clap clap* this news is better than strike lottery right? *wink*
jealous ? sure have ! if you say "no" I'll be so surprise. But then again, women are 'hard to please' creatures sometimes... *laugh*
thanks to all congratulations!!!
Ya, happier than strike 4D or TOTO!
we can never buy happiness! hahahaha
*Congrats* Darling~~ Wait dear son prefer daddy over mummy how?! Worried? Heh.
glad to hear that. . . hahhahha, aiya, share more love loh...
really a good news .. if my darling dont't want to help I'll ask him "is she your daughter" she follows your surname .. hahaa.. but my darling always help .. just my babymoon doesn't want him to hug.. wowhahaha...
coz i always give the baby to him on saturday sunday so i can relax abit haha...
but good to know now your hubby have a good bonding with your boy.
ya, i guess you should be a bit jelous hahaha.. you take care of him alone anad now when your boy can know his daddy then he love daddy more haha... j/k .. i guess its time for you to abit relax since your hubby now feel more needed by your son.
i think your dear husband was struggling with his identity as a father. but glad to know he has finally ACCEPTED it!!!
thank you weefee's mum...
*hugs* to all !
wah!!! you 1 man show for 3 years?! i salute you!!!
i also think your hubby not used to his new id, as a father.
read fr some parenting mag that kids mus have equal interaction fr both parents 'cause fathers tend to play more rough w their kids. this helps in kids' brain development. cant rem exactly about it. let me dig the article out 1st.
anyway, CONGRATULATIONS!!!! at least you now have more time for yourself!
rem to take pics of them.
Ermmm...will you present me with a "Super Mummy of the Year" Trophy or "One-Man-Show" Perseverence Reward???
ya please go dig it!
i agree w that...i will pin my eyes on my boy's every movement around the playground whereas my dear husband will just sit there and shake legs....their idea is fall down then they will learn...?????
also they are rough...carry upside down with one leg....flip and throw the boy...scary...i mus make myself disappear whilst they are playin or i surely FREAK OUT!!!
Last edited by CanCanMum; 12-11-2008 at 07:11 PM.
from mybaby mag (oct 07-mar08, vol2):
"today's dads want to be involved and there are many reasons why mothers should let them - even though a father will care for his baby in a characteristically male manner. take something as simple as carrying: dads tend to hold their infants facing outward, letting them observe the world as it passes, as opposed to moms, who usually carry them facing in. or take play: fathers are more unpredictable and physically, tossing and jiggling and otherwise, maneuvering babies in a way that excites the little guys 70% of the time they play together. mothers, who tend to be more verbal and soothing, excite their babies just 4% of the time. and babies clearly enjoy time with their dads: researchers have observed them scrunch up their shoulders, breathe faster and widen their eyes in excitement when fathers approached.
a father's presence in his baby's life produces huge benefits. while mothers tend to allow children less autonomy than fathers and act sooner to remove obstacles in a child's way, many dads challenge kids to be self-sufficient and gibve them more time than moms to solve their own problems. mothers traditionally worry that the rough play favored by fathers will encourage aggression in their babies, but in fact, such activitieis teaches children how to keep aggressiveness in check. and it's not just boys who benefit. research shows that daughters who play rough-and-tumble with their fathers tend to have more self-confidence and do better in school.
at the very minimum, exposure to dual parenting styles teaches a child how to weigh options and make choices."
MNB *pat* CCM - well done for your 1-man show and perseverance that finally bear fruit!!!
im like poru, "dump" my son to hubby on wkns coz stay at home mum facing son all the time, need a sabatical...haha mayb this is scorpion mommies trait?!
yeah stay at home mum not easy...sometimes i face my boy whole sat already sian ...LOLs
thank you thank you + bow bow....hahahah
thanks mrs pup for the comprehensive article!!!
you must be *smiling* in your sleep tonite :P
You must be proud of yourself and we share your happiness too. I am sure the bonding between daddy and son will grow and I think he is starting to enjoy being a daddy.....Good job!