Mayb they just dont want chinese traditionals? Since no tea ceremony then they dont need to give you 4 dian jin too. For the buffet wise it just show how CHEAPSKATE they r
dont mind me saying BUT why use their cpf? They r grandparents which they r not really ought to do so n it should b using your dear husband cpf rite?
you dont need to bother about them coz you r the mother n in eye of law they r only grandparents which they have no rite to say or decide anything for your children EXCEPT for parents of your children which is your dear husband n you. just ignore them take it like as if they r farting