This is a discussion on I hate living with parent in law!!! within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by snowbear I'm not living with my parent in law but my mother in law comes over at ...
omg, she too much. mayb you can add one pad lock. i can totally understand hw you fel, coz my mother in law is e SAME... no privacy at all. we stayin together, so i always lock my rm, but is pointless. every wk end when i go back to my mum place, she'll go into our rm. n i dont want my hubby's nieces to go in(coz they like to use my stuff) but she let em gt hold of e keys, they go in as n when. so irresponsible. i HATE it..... what's e pt of lockin?
aiyoh, snowbear why your mother in law like that one?
only you can tahan... if me, i would have blown up a long time ago!
Eh, get a padlock and dont't give her the keys! Yeah, and like what was suggested, get her keys and also mess up her things!
i got ask dear husband to ask for the keys back but she refused to give it back...
my dear husband ... dont know why he can't see that what his mum is doing is wrong.. fedup. Looks like i gotta tell her off myself. So far i've been too tactful i think... But i scared after that she go complain to my dear husband or my dear husband's cousins then they come and confront me. Sibei sian... just keep low profile for now till the next incident occurs.
All of us are facing the same problem, but what to do?
I'm trying to apply for our own flat, but recently there's no new BTO and am still a month away to 21 years old. Currently, I think I can only swallow all my unhappiness down to my throat.
Purposely in front your your mother in law's relatives say this to husband:
"dear, how come our house the things suddenly will change place ar? that day i wanna find my things but found it in dustbin, is it you throw away?"
-husband will definitely say not him-
then you turn to mother in law and say:
"mother, how come ar? my house got ghost ar? only me, you n husband got keys what."
hahaha. then her relatives sure know it's HER already. dunnid to say too much. just act innocent and blur then you can see her reaction also. if she admit then just say:
"aiyo, we give you our keys is for emergency, not for you to come over when we not home to spot check lei. if wanna throw our things pls ask first, cos some things belong to our friend , we borrow onli, must return , else ppl tink we steal their things dont wanna return."
it's a matter of when you bring it up and your tone. must make it very innocent sounding, like you really did not suspect is her and curious how come your things will disappear. hahahaha. i used to do that to my siblings all the time
Empty vessels make the most noise
I hardly meet her relatives (thank God for that!) so no chance to do that. Can only ask dear husband such questions.
I also have tried telling her nicely not to touch or throw away my things. But she'll just say orhh... then next time it just happens again. So many times already... i've lost count.
Haha. I always go back whenever i'm not happy. And i always go back to complain to all my family members (mine is a big family) that how disgusting and irritating my parent in law are. Too many hates already towards parent in law. Can't wait till i get my own house. We are the new generation so staying with those old generation make no peace at home. parent in law everything also want to care & nag. Super irritating.
Until both families went to malaysia together and my family saw their "powers"... fwah... now my mum understands..... we can bitch together now!
Last edited by Stan; 30-06-2009 at 11:42 PM.
Ya cos when we stay at their (in-laws) house we got nobody to help us mah. If never release out will explode man. Whenever i complain, my family will listen to me and my dad & sis even encourage me to move back to my own house to stay cos they dont't want me kena bully by outsider (family goes by blood, in-laws goes by heart) mah. I love to go back home. Feel happier whenever i'm home.
Haha. All thanks to that Malaysia trip bah then your mom understand how you feel. LOL. Yes at least you got somebody to bitch with you about your unhappiness now. If got nobody to bitch with about in laws at least still can here to bitch about them. HAHA. *i feel so mean*
omg, so scary.
how to marry like that! phobia .
but bf says his mum is very easy to get along, n im wondering now............
Stay together day in day out sure conflict one cos mother in law will have her ways of doing things and we also dont know like to be told what to do.......... i just go back to my parent in law place for dinner once a week... relationship is cordial... everyone is happy.....my 2 cents worth....
A few months ago, my sister In law suggested another family trip..... omg.. i told myself i not going even it is free.......i will have to be mad!!
Luckily my family supportive enough. If not i will go mad. Haha. A trip to Malaysia again??? LOL. Tell her your family is busy, somemore now got H1N1 they dont't wish to travel around. I dont't think they will be so good bah. FREE. If it's free then next time sure got many money issue to talk about .
hi, all mummies... finally i cant tk it anymore. i declare war........on monday nite, i pack sum of my stuff and carry my dear daughter back to my mum's place. guess what, my sister In law cal me and say all sort of excuses, like mother is old alre... you are a married woman.... you must give and tk...blar blar blar. she admitted that they al dont like me to go back to my mum side, she say i m alre married, sldnt always go back to my mum place??? HELLO, i oli goes back on fri nite, but return hm on sun nite. sat, my mum dont have to wrk, so she gets to c my dear daughter, sun my dad (e oli day he'll b at hm for e whole day) gets to c my dear daughter. wkdays they have to wrk, by e time they reach hm is alre 11plus(at nite), hw to c? then my sister In law say then no choice. WHY WHY WHY why must you ppl b so selfish???? i cant forsake and dunwan my family, they are my love ones, if i listen to my sister In law, dont go back to my mum's place just coz i m alre married, i will b a UNFILIAL daughter. WTH.....
i told my hubby to return to his own house and b a mummy boy, i m tired of e life, i dunwan ppl to tnk that i m snatchin her son away. my sister In law say she dont understand why her bro is so close w/ my family and not em.... what tokin you? my parents love him, so of course , why gt jealous, stupid.... then she say i dont accept your desicion on livin apart, she want me to go back, and endure endure endure... she say tis is what a daughter in law sld do.OMG
i reali cant tk it, i told her i'll divorce then, she also say cannot. WTF....
Too mant things involved, i cant post it all, but I M GG CRAZY. i reali dont know what to do. I M AT LOSS....
Last edited by sean-tan; 02-07-2009 at 10:01 PM.
Actually I'll just shoot your sister In law: if you all really so good, my husband will be begging me to go back to your place. But he is NOT! so it tells that you are not good ppl. Now is you call me to beg me to go back, and you still talk to me so rudely?
she just dunwan me to go back to my mun's place. she claim i have to look after my mother in law as she's alre old, but she ask me to go out n wrk. i said i lost most of my friend after married, then she say you can stil go out w/ em, as long as you gt cum hm n SLEEP can ... what tokin you?? you oli tnk of your family your well being, then hw bout mine? I am tryin VERY BEST to b a good daughter in law , but who appericate???
hubby said want to move out, she say cannot, mother pin her hope on us, we must tk care of her as she took care of hubby almost 30 yrs???? aren't you al her daughters n sons (total of 3 daughters n 2 sons)???? WHY us??? i m not sayin i dunwan to tk care of my mother in law, but is everyone duty, n we also want a house of our own, cant possibly one family stuck in one rm rite??? REALI STUPID