This is a discussion on I hate living with parent in law!!! within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by sean-tan she just dunwan me to go back to my mun's place. she claim i have to ...
Asking you to take care of mother in law cos she's old yet mother in law ask you to work. HAHA. It's just some excuses to stay you back. When you go back home you will gain family support mah so they dont't like it. Just tell them . You're going back from FRI - SUN only. The rest of the days you are staying over at their place what. So what's wrong? I dont't see any wrong in it actually. You play your part to balance both side of the family mah. If not next time when your kid grow up only recognize your hubby side people and not your parent side ppl how? Didn't your hubby call you to talk it out? dont't be sad . We understand how evil mother in law & sister In law are.
On the bright side, you hubby is wanting to move out too! Since your husband is on your side, dunnid to go worry about what others say. You married your husband, not his sister!!!! They can't brainwash him cos ultimately he'll want the family he chose and built. I always tell my husband: you can't chose your parents but you can choose your wife. & since you have chosen ME, you better stick with me till the day we die. I think your husband needs a reminder so he won't kena 'brainwashed'.
My suggestion to you now is not to be upset but to focus on your goal (getting your own place).
btw, the next time she tells you that your mother in law look after your husband 30yrs, tell her that it's HER MOTHER also, not your mother, so stop telling you to look after HER MOTHER.
I feel so angry for you. If I'm there to hear all these, I'm very sure I'll give your sister In law a big tight slap on your behalf. I hate it when there are meddling SILs who got think they know everything and got nothing better to do!
*fm my personal exp, meddling SILs are the biggest nightmare!
btw, i read so much already, onli notice your sister In law say this and that. has your mother in law said anything to you before?
Empty vessels make the most noise
why tis thing happened is coz, on e spot, my hubby godfather came to c dear daughter, then my mother in law start all her nonsense again tellin him we gg to locked dear daughter in e rm. coz mother in law and i have pro, so want to avoid, i choose to stay in e rm. then she go tel my sister In law i give her face, dunwan to tok to her, she always complain to her daughters, so now my sister In law(s) all is angry w/ me.
every mornin i wk up sure greet her, she hapi she reply, she not hapi, she keep quiet, then what can i do???
i try to tok to her, she dunwan to ans, then..... i dunwan to locked in e rm too, but what can i do, cant possibly i stay outside w/ you then both keep quiet, more jilat rite.
it hd been days . hubby stay at his side, i stay at my side, not a sms or call frm him. i m reali sad... and anyway, sister In law said that if we move out means no more family , coz we move out means we dunwan my mother in law, so they also wont want us as family member . she say is i who chop off e family line.....
Last edited by sean-tan; 03-07-2009 at 12:39 AM.
my hubby also dont lyk me go back.. + if i go back also c my grandpa only n my parents off on diff days.. good thing is my mother in law thinks it's a must for me to at least go back once...
just tell them you want to wait for your parents to come back so they can c n INTERACT your dear daughter .. n + so late liaoz.. it's not good to bring dear daughter "shine moonlight" (for some superstitious reason ehich i also dont know y).. so you got to stay.. not possible you n dear husband go back n leave dear daughter there mahz.. right?? r you the only child at your side? or dear daughter the only grandchild?
c n INTERACT: if they ask you y must stay overnight, tell them dear daughter n your parents must be awake to INTERACT with each other.. which will be whenever dear daughter not sleeping.. babies sleeping time not exact dee mahz... so stay there n once got chance to interact n straight away interact liaoz mahz...
Ask your sister in law to stop adding salt and vinegar.
ya... in my hubby side, his sista is like in charge of everythin. sometime i reali feelin like slapin her. everythin also want to interfere, i cant sleep, veri trouble by tis thing. if my mother in law, cld just b more understandin, things wont becum like that... sometime i tnkin.... did i did e rite thing to get marry?
it seem lke, i m married to a family, yes i love my hubby, but i'll have to give in lots and lots for tis marriage. sld i just give up? i reali reali LOSS......
Last edited by sean-tan; 03-07-2009 at 04:20 AM.
i also give in n give up alot for this marriage.. so when the time came for me to blow up, i blew up at everyone.. for awhile, parent in law became "understanding", sister In law give me black face, dear husband quarreled with me, parent in law scold dear husband etc etc.. but things went back to square 1 after that "awhile"... i also loss.. dont know what to do.... just trying my best to tc dear daughter n make sure she got at least the min. necs..
sean tan, i think its time for you to make a stand.
a firm one.
there is no wrong in gg back to visit your parents.
afterall, THEY r your parents.
tell your sis in law that YOUR parents also bring you up for so many yrs n pls, what is call married out means shldnt go back so often?
why she so old fashion?
it's a FREE WORLD here, hello!
shld knock come sense into her.
tell her it's your life, n tts your dear daughter, you can choose to go where you want to, live where you want to, do what you want to, no one can control it, not even your dear husband! who is she to tie you down n control your life? you r married to your dear husband, not sold to their family !
she really damn one kind, if im you, she sure kena from me big time. ask her to go back to her family(her dear husband side) n mind her own blardy business!
as for your dear husband, do have a good talk with him.
he never contact you, make an effort to contact him n talk it out.
he's sandwiched btw you n his family (whats more, his own mother), so he's in a difficult spot too.
talk to him with an open heart n mind, dont keep thinking, you give in so much n you did so much if not very difficult to keep a clear mind.
move out if you must, sometimes, need to be firm n decisive n maybe a lil hard hearted to let things go your way, if not, how to live happily?
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
I also want to tok to hubby, tis few days, he did cum to my house, to c dear daughter. then at nite, he'll g back hm... days... DAYS.... we just kept quiet when we c each other, nth nth NTH.... tok nth at all. he always fel that things is as simple as ABC... is heart pain, sad, he also like dont bother at all. mayb like what you say, one day, i must reali have a good tok, and hopefully i will do that and e tok turns out well... coz i dont know whether to tok to him a not, as he say before, he doesnt want to tok bout tis issue....