Communication (the right way) is also important
This is a discussion on I TRUST my partner!!!! within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; i agree different ppl have different point of views It all depends on what's your definition of emotional betrayal , ...
i agree different ppl have different point of views It all depends on what's your definition of emotional betrayal , mental betrayal etc... and am sensitive to this a not.. while most stray is on overtrusting .. i didnt mean not to trust your spouse its just dont too trust .. just for the sake protect yourself.. so when bad things happen the impact wont be too badly..
Communication (the right way) is also important
The objective to start this thread is to show off faithful partner ?
Hope you are Okay and not living in your own Utopia world.
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Those who got cheated on by your partners... I'm sorry about your situation, not all guys are perfect, or almost perfect...
If one is gonna b scared to fall 100percent in love for fear of being heartbroken then why have a relationship at all just to add on to the stress of everyday life; always wondering if he's out with someone, etc etc..
Well, each of us will definately have different situations hence our diff mindsets; who am I to judge...but like ive mentioned, this is supposed to b a happy thread... Where we are proud of our individual partners, and voice out that we appreciate them so...
Kudos to mamapenguin for starting this thread.
Hi can i join too??? I learn to trust my partner as it take time .. Yes i looking into postive way that will make mi feel better than i anyhow thing.. I come across this when i checking on my email.. just want to share out.
Nobody saying her husband not faithful. How come suddenly need to declare to the whole world that her husband is a good husband ?
The title she put "I TRUST my partner!!!!".
Mamapenguin must have some problem or she try to deny something.
Someone around her real life must had told her that her husband is cannot be trusted.
Do you see rich people go around declare that he/she super duper rich ?
Her situation is very dangerous. She put so high hope that her husband is very faithful.
Let say touch wood, her husband can't resist the temptation.
What will she feel ? Some people can't take it at all.
This is life. dont't put all the "investment" in one basket.
Suicide victim said to have suffered from depression - Channel NewsAsia
Being in love and in a relationship is not an investment. Yes, I know that was in inverted commas and I know what you mean. But if one seeks financial security in a relationship I suggest one works hard enough, save and go invest in shares or property instead of a man...When you love someone and start a family with them, it's more like a teamwork. We communicate and work and help each other; to do that of course ull need trust... Situations?; it's Oktoberfest month, he has a drinking event till late so I'll b home taking care of the girls, vice versa, I've a metal gig next month which will end late. He's gonna take leave from his work to handle the girls then...this is called working together for our family, and i think he appreciates that I trust him enough on such drinking escapades as I know I appreciate him trusting me on mine...
Btw, topic on suicide victims suffering from depression. They did not end their lives just cause their relationships disintegrated. They lost it cause they are just weaker emotionally and mentally. There will always b relationships and marriages dissolved everyday, but you dont't see each and every one of them dying..; and I think some of them would have loved the other party very much as well, but lived on.. So dont blame suicides or mental breakdowns on love, its the individual.
Early part of the yr, there was a news article about how men and women seek their partners; guys for looks and girl for how much their partner earns... I feel sad for them. Well if it works for them and their relationship lasts , great. If not, then I think those are what you had mentioned 'investment' .... Sorry I dont't believe in that , neither does mamapenguin nor the rest here...:/
call us foolish, but we're happily in love with our respective partners and hubbies. When you give unconditional love and trust, ull feel good, loved and it's definately a load off your mind... And if... If shit happens, cause we're all only humans... Communication is the key, on where we would go from there...
Quit being pessimistic... That's what leads to suicidal thoughts..
Last edited by engel; 11-10-2011 at 12:31 PM.
Hi ling.er.... Yeah trust gotta b earned and takes time..
Sorry can't read the Chinese characters though..
Eurekas, the link you posted talks about depression. Someone who has depression and commits suicide means that lost the ability to reason and find that killing themselves is the only way out of their pain. They dont't see that they have a choice. They may even be having a psychotic episode at that time, no one knows because no one was there for them. Yes her marriage breakdown might have added to the emotional stress and severity of her depression but that is not the cause of it.
Depression is not easy to live with and the last thing these people need is for you to judge them by making assumptions that she "put all investment in a basket" therefore she killed herself. That is not the issue at all in this case. We should be asking ourselves why as a society we are not helping these people enough that they drive themselves to suicide?
There is nothing wrong with Mamapenguin declaring that she trusts her partner. Must we go through life always listening to people's complaints, worries and troubles?? With so many women posting about their husbands' marital unfaithfulness or even potential unfaithfulness, a post like Mamapenguin's is refreshing and encouraging. It is obvious that Mamapenguin knows her husband so much more than you do so dont't judge her for it.
The depression is come from unfaithful husband.
'Mummy keeps crying'Not long after registering their marriage, their relationship became strained when Madam Tan found a condom in his car. When she asked him about it, he said that it belonged to his friend.
I love this forum and this topic. I just wanna share my experience with all the mummies here... I myself is not an honest person last time..
I was involved with a married man but it was purely as a good friend…. He was having problems with his wife after a while.. maybe it was becoz of trust.. we both saw his wife with another man at a different time and location… and I did not tell him.. me and his family knew each other.. they got separated and he got the custody of their children.. coz the ex wife doesn’t want to take care their kids… so eventually I fell in love with him and we got married.. he is a sweet talker.. as his frenz cud tell him that he can make a bird fall down just to listen to him.. he went out with other girl frenz before after he divorce.. but I waited him to be with me.. and finally we got married.. and honestly he changed and I trust him whole heartedly.. my frenz used to tell me that if he can divorce and go out with other girls wen he’s with you.. he can do it to you also.. but no one knows him like I do..
I do have my own savings but her knows it coz he always update my bank book.. I trust him coz he is now a family man.. he rather save his money than going overseas with me.. so that we can go together as a family.. he dont go out with his frenz and even he does.. he will bring me along.. he dont sit at kedai kopi anymore.. he just spend his time with his family.. he gave up his racing bike so that I will feel save wherever he is.. he will show me how much he earned every month so that I know what we spend.. his only hobby now is fishing.. I dont suspect anything coz wen he go fishing.. he really look like apek going fishing.. there was one time I was having negative thoughts but to think again.. theres nothing for me to suspect him …
I know some ppl will think that I snatch ppl’s hubby .. even his ex wife too.. but I dont care.. I won’t comment anything about her.. its her opinion and mouth to say anything.. trust is from experience and from the love that we both share together.. and also commitment.. I got a lot of ppl saying bad things about me.. but I dont care.. I am expecting my 2nd child with him now.. and I feel blessed.. with another one coming.. we will have 4 children together as a happy family.. I love my family and I wont do anything stupid to break it.. God has given me an honest husband.. and I will cherish him for the rest of my life..
Maybe you skeptics should start another thread; ' I trust no one but myself!'
early congrats on your 2nd bub... seems you've a wonderful family....
oh ladies .. relax its just different people have different points of view thats all... anyway its good to see people blissfull in their marriage isnt it.. and if it really turn outwise .. maybe we will have another thread like engel said " I trust no one but myself " lolx
Anyway we should feel happy for others who is happy in their marriage and learn from those who had failure in their marriage too..
Hehe, agree with you Angela ... As well as we'll try our best to give emotional support should someone going through a breakup need...
K, I'm done being nocturnal for now... good nite.
trust your husband without reservation then you will face your consequences in the future