Do you keep a diary? I disagree with my mom (parents divorced) just as much as you and your parents. And I find keeping a diary helps. I secretly curse and swear and rant and rave for many pages. Heehee.
In fact, one particular argument i had with her was when she scolded me...you STUPID or BODOH? BLIND ISSIT? must be CAREFUL!
I was carrying my baby when i tripped over the leg of a chair. I was so offended and hurt by her words. dont't think i'll ever be able to forget that day. Heh.