This is a discussion on If your husband have affair do you give him a 2nd chance? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by VroomVroomBoys Hmmm, must count myself lucky you were not in the srpent mood when I popped up ...
anyway, now i really dont bother about him loh. sometimes, i really wish he could have an affair again and that he can't let go of that woman, so that i could leave him right away!
wise as serpents as to release venom when provoked hehe
hmm can wife have affair too and ask the husband to forgive the wife ?
Some guys tend to like having affair and when the wife found out then ask for forgiveness .. stupid fellow ..
Told him i will never do it because it is shameful and i won't know how to face my son! said thses to make him feel shameful of what he did
My point of view about husband having affair is that both parties play a part in it. There is not wrong or right. When there is an affair, 2 parties have to be responsible for it.
There is a pushing force from home and pulling force from the outside when affair arise. Nobody is in the wrong to pursue his/her happiness but there is responisbility toward your partner and childrens if any.
My point is, give the other party a 2nd chance if there is kid involve and he is willing to repent. Otherwise, when your kid grown up, how are you going to tell him about it? You can't tell them that you did absolutely all you could to make sure he wasn't yet another statistic from a broken home.
Sometimes "mental" affair is easier to forgive that "physical" affair................
lucky......my husband dont't have extra energy for all these..........he is the one who "occassionlly" worry that other pp may be attracted to me........hehehhe, becos he think I can talk with all sorts of pp if I want to, cos I very chaty type.
Many pp always tell me, a person cannot be sure that their spouse is good and won't betray them until they r six feet below ground. I dont't believe that, I strongly believe that me and my husband will remain truthful to each other for the rest of our life.
Man can still think for themselves. We always tend to blame the other woman but looking at it, if the man dont give in or be tempted, the affairs can't start right unless the other woman choose to RAPE him...ha ha ha... otherwise, no is no such thing as no choice.
Some may say that both party got to be blame. But dont't you know a lot of men dont't appreciate and treasure what they have and they are never satisfied for what they already have.
I already 'kan po ' i am now living for myself and my beloved son only
Originally Posted by elaine82Ladies ... first of all, there's no such thing as sexual equality.Originally Posted by liang`jia
In this case, I'm sure all guys have double standards ... as in they can stray but their wives definitely cannot.
However, you may still get a handful of men who are more broad-minded & willing to share you with others:
BUT ... is this what you want?
I hope you are right ... coz there're so many people who get to meet the step-mums & step-siblings only at their daddies' wake. Yes, I used the plural form ... becoz there can be more than 1 family a very wealthy & successful daddy can be keeping outside.Originally Posted by MsKoh1973
- when husband & wife lose interest of being together, no longer love one another, no sex life, etc...
-when wife too naggy too inconsiderate blah blah
- when man need some new excitement rather than stay at home, watch tv.. and see wife naggy black face lolz, they want to have social life...
- when a woman outside offer herself free of charge, no commitment needed, just purely enjoy the fun and will not disturb his family...
maybe still got other reasons but i forget lolz
well...just for sharing ...usually me and my hubby will discuss about any topics... and share the thoughts, and have mid night talk before sleep... it's a good way for communication ...
Last edited by SunShine07; 10-05-2009 at 11:39 AM.
I hope you are right ... coz there're so many people who get to meet the step-mums & step-siblings only at their daddies' wake. Yes, I used the plural form ... becoz there can be more than 1 family a very wealthy & successful daddy can be keeping outside.
Agreed, my auntie only know about my uncle's affair at his wake. Frankly speaking, I dont't pity my auntie, if you will to ask me to choose, I would choose the mistress who at least look more gentle on the behaviour as compare to my aunty. To my astonishment,my aunty seem ok during the whole process of the wake, she dont't look sad and I know she only worried that my uncle has given the mistress all his money. I am only 10 yrs old when I witness my uncle wanted to jump down from his unit because we suspect he got brain cancer and got headache all the time and he can't stand my aunty nagging. Sad to say, my aunty is still nagging him at the point when his leg is on the parapet wall. I saw my other uncle hold on to him and my grandmum crying and and holding to his body.
So, if I am a man, I won't want this type of wife too. Every man deserve a caring wife after a hard day work and every woman deserve a husband who feel grateful toward his wife for taking care of the internal affair at home.
Last edited by ochklk; 10-05-2009 at 12:00 PM.
When a man have an affairs, it's easier for them to end cos mostly its physical. For a woman to have an affair, it's more difficult to end cos woman tend to put their feelings into it.
Actually i have seen married woman having affair also, but usually it was because the husband is also flirting and having affairs.
Infact, the woman whom had an short affair with my husband was also married, I came to know that her husband is also having affair with a prositute.
Anyway, ppl like us who husband having affair, we dont do such thing in return what, ?
Sigh, the world is changing ....
Sigh, know that time my husband said these to me, 'men are weaker and easily tempted' and say if i dont make him happy he will sure fall again, and whether he fall or not depend on me! I feel like giving him a slap when i hear these out from his mouth
And that moment i already get myself prepare that he would do this again to me. I already 'dui ta si xin '
men are like that always tends to push the blame around when they should be apologising instead.
i personally feel that once woman got married, most of us will stay true and faithful to the husband. unless, unless the husband really jialat make the wife feel like running away but still not to the extend of getting into an affair.
Actually i have secret plan to run away again with my son, just need time to prepare and need some help to get me back to singapore!