This is a discussion on IL problem ??? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; sigh ... Im currenly a stay at home mum + my son now only 2mth plus.. I did told my mother in law that i ...
sigh ... Im currenly a stay at home mum + my son now only 2mth plus.. I did told my mother in law that i will look for a job next yr as is coming end yr also not easy to find a job now aday .. SOme more my son only 2mth + ..
Today i over heard what she told my huby ( Her mother in law ) that i never go look for a job always stay @ home then told that i can go look for a job that is from mornin to afternoon 3+ 4+ ( as she need go off to work @ 430pm).. Mornin she can help look after my son.. But she dont know that not that easy to find a job gt this timing ... dont know izit i stay @ home then use water / electric + eat then never give house hold she dont liek or what But my huby did give..
The only thing that piss mi is the JOBSSS .. I want look after my son my self as i want to have bond with him...
Problem is mother in law seem lik tell other ppl ( I dont want go look for job or i dont want work ) = =" Hear alrd so piss & sad .. Is not i dont want is i cant.. As you say my son stil so young.. Hw to left mummy ... As my hubby seldom talk to his mum i want to when go back work or what .. ... I gt no where to shout & throw my anger for today so post it here .. T.T
I know how you feel.. Some old folks are like that.. If I were you, i'd also be pissed off!!
Well, rem you are the mummy. you have the right to tk care of your son, so just ignore what your mother in law said. If she ever go around to tell ppl that you dont wanna work again, get your husband to talk to her nicely on what plan that you guys are having, like you are returning to workforce next yr when your baby turn into toddler. Its not that you dont wanna work, you just wanna take care of your son when he's only 2 month+ and that your baby need you badly.
you can talk to your husband on this matter and asked him to speak to your mother in law. If not, your mother in law will kp on stressing your husband and you regarding when you returning to workforce. Worried that your relationship with in laws will worsen, so its always good to speak out then to bottom up all your unhapiness.
why feel so vexed n frustrated? next time she comment this to friends or relatives simply just tell her that you have the best job in the world, being a mummy to your baby when he is still so young n vulnerable.
If you manage to find a a job, who will take care of your baby?
Is really piss mi off .. I dont think my mother in law will KP my huby about Im goin to work or not.. If i talk to my huby on this matter he will yayaya that all.. ><" Gt talk no talk same lei.. If she want tell mi go work come say in front of mi .. Talk behin back ...
Lolx good want.. But she also wun say this on my face .. Sure is back talk .. I just over hear this when she talkin to her mother in law (-)
Her thinking is i can work from mornin to afternoon like 3pm+ or 4Pm + Cos mornin she can help look after . Cos she work @ 430pm .. Where gt this kind of jobs till afternoon 3-4Pm+ ><"
Lastest newsssss ---- THE IS COMING TO STAY ON MONDAY T.T
still can say . next time you happen to hear her gossiping about this to some one else, just casually walk in n say that .
actually there r such jobs which only require you to work a few hours a day til 3-4 pm.
i have a friend who is gg to put her girl in CC n work a PT job form 10am-3pm.
you just need to find lorr. but imo, now baby is so young, and IF your hubby earn a substantial income for both of you and also give your mother in law money, then OK what.
well, its her mouth, she wanna gossip behind your back, also nth you can do. if she says it in front of you, then just say what AB reco.
before pin was 18 mths old. i also worked PT from 6-10pm 6 days a week. cos my parents/sis is home by 5plus.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
actually there is nothing wrong that you want to stay home to take care of your baby & bond with your baby... is a personal choice... if i hear something like that.. i will sure shoot back to her face... did your hubby try to help you talk about this matter to your IL when she speak like that about you??
I can understand how you feel... some IL are like that.. For me, I intend to look after my baby till 18 mths, then whenever, I meet up with my IL, they will always say if mother not working, putting baby in childcare no subsidy (to me, it is none of my biz when my baby is still young)... now childcare accept even 4 months old baby so mother can go and work... put in childcare good for baby so they can learn more things... ... sometimes I think it is best to ignore what you dont want to hear. They want to talk in front or behind our backs just let them.... there is a plant called mother-in-law's tongue isn't it?? Long leaves.. ....
Haia now i can do is bear only .. My huby didt knw that his mum talk behind my back. Cos i never mention to him.. If i do so he also dont care much .. before we marry & gt baby i & him mum gt misunderstanding laio, Sooooo .. ><"
I did want to teach my son on my own way. I also though of putting in child care but my mother in law keep saying that dont know the child care ppl hw to treat them .. dont know give them eat what .. Cos is close you cant see what happening inside.. Keep saying those to mi , make mi worry ><" ! If liek that i can ask them look after my son or what @@
Mummy here if have lobang or part time job let mi kwn.. Im staying @ west
I think it's good that you want to bond with your baby and you have the chance to do so.Many others want to but can't cos of financial probs etc etc.it's your choice dont't care what your il say.Mayb she just jealous you aer at home she no chance to take care.
But i've seen grandparents wanna take care end up keep scolding the baby -dont't cry/very noisy/very troublesome etc.
If you decide to put your child in a cc and she complain that dont know what they do to the kid ask her stand outside and watch. until you go pick up lol.
But since you said your child is only 2 mths+, are you currently bf-ing? If you are, then you can just tell your mother in law that. If you go work , then baby drink what? Somemore breast milk is the best gift a mother can give to her babies!
Most In-laws are problematics. Sad to say no matter how much we try to fit into their "culture or trends" there were always be "a little problem here and there". Best is to avoid getting into "situations" with them.
It is alright to get a job next year. Your baby is still young. When you found a job try explaining to your new boss or company regarding your situation. It does help.
That is what I did with my current company. I did explained to my boss about how tough it is to take care of my baby girl. Do expect a pay cut for sure, but hey it work both ways.
Hope it helps. Try dont't stress so much.....If we are always stress....our In-laws always find "ways" to cut us out. LOL