Originally Posted by LoVeSOriginally Posted by joeichenIMHO, it is always easier to talk from a 3rd person perspective ...Originally Posted by happymummyo7
All of you have been pregnant for 9 whole months ... some even more than once ... & you are telling me for whatever good resons you may have, you think you are willing & you are able to give up your baby for adoption?
I dont know ... I'm just a papa ... never experienced my boys ever kicking me in my tummy ... but I know I can never separate (for good) from my boys, whether it's the day they were born or now or a much later stage in their childhood.
If there are any mummies here who can do that, please let me know ... I need to seriously change my mindset. THANKS.
This is even more laughable ... by singularly making a decision to give your child away, you are not contradicting your pledge that the mother (alone) actually have no right to decide they live or die?Originally Posted by joeichen
I really dont think infertile couples make better parents ... on the contrary, I fear some can well be in it for the novelty of parenthood.Originally Posted by happymummy07
It's like pet-owners ... many appear committed when they buy their expensive pets, but we also know many also dispose of their pets when they found out that the ensuing commitment is really way above their original expectations. Worst still, they are pet-owners who do not dispose ... but end up keeping the pets under very compromised environments & conditions.
What about the guilt that comes along with "selling" your baby? Personally, I think that guilt will be worst than the haunting that comes from having an abortion ... especially when you find out that your baby has ended up with a shitty life becoz of a change of mind & attitude in the adoptive parents.Originally Posted by happymummy07
Humans will be humans ... when money is involved, the more you pay, the higher your expectations. What if the child turn out to have a lack of academic aptitude ... or worst, turn out to have chronic illnesses? Do you think the adoptive parents would have a loving & caring disposition towards "this piece of goods they paid good money for"?
How do you know this will be the case?Originally Posted by happymummy07
If given away to someone within your own extended family, you can at least be assured that you know the couple & their character ... but how are you gonna face meeting your own child every now & then, without having the rights to acknowledge that child as your own?
If given away to strangers, it is likely they wanna have nothing to do with you ever again ... just to protect their exclusivity to their latest acquired assets. More significantly, if they are strangers to begin with ... how many interviews do you think you'd need to determine whether they are indeed good people, on top of the fact that they are well-to-do people?