sad to hear what happen to you, be strong.
In my house, I am the decision maker, my husband also can't decide what brand of diaper to buy, what fruits etc, I amthe one who tell him.
Maybe you want to consider have a heart to heart talk w your hubby, is there something which happens outside ( like his job, or his parents or siblings) that he didn't want to tell you cos scare you worry?
Is better to find out the truth then to guess and make the wrong decision.
Regardless of what happen, you should always save up some money for yourself and kids.