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How about put alarm clock right beside your hubby's ear. When you know when you baby is going to wake up, set the time.
After recover you go out of house shopping when your hubby is not working, play whole time outside. dont't forget to off your hp.
hi Reginakoh *hugs* your husband dont seem like the auto type guess in order not to tire yourself out you have to keep calling him. When i was having my 1st kid, hubby when to kitchen make milk pass it to me then go to sleep .... i have no choice kick him off the bed ask him to feed. nite time, baby cried until whole family awake and he can still sleep thus i have to wake him make him after making sure he is wide awake, i go back to sleep.
if he say dont know, pass baby to him ask him hands on. If you know baby have someone to take care, find time to go out for a while using excuse like check up ...buy grocery....ect.....at least have some time to your own.
Old people normally dont like infants to go out of the house....like my mother in law when i bring my baby to my mum's place which is once a week she also dont allow....unless she is going out on that day...then she let. Most of my friends only saw my kids when they are one month old...Now my children is 5 some of them also never get to see my kids....
Try to rest more cos now you have a sign of backache which will not recover if you dont take proper care of yourself. Take care and pleeeeeeeease dont be too upset.
he only started changing for the better when i fell really sick with high fever for a week, and he realised that it's not easy to be me.
nowadays he helps out more, but once in a while i have to throw tantrums before he will get the message.
sometimes, i will also play smart and do all the housework when he's back and dump the baby with him so that he can see that i've got things to do loh, and i dont't just shake legs.
end up i give up on waking him up.. cuz comparing the time i use to wake him up vs i do everything myself, i think i can feed dear daughter for 4 times (3 hourly interval meaning 9-12hrs) before i can manage to wake dear husband up..
My husband can't wake up when his son cry . my mum will get up, KICK HIM to wake him up
Ya, my husband good. Got help out.
1st month is the hardest. 1st week stay in hospital, so left 3 weeks look after baby. My hubby took leaves to help out. With c-sect, very hard to move about. We both woke up at night during 2nd week. I pumped breast milk and fed night. Then morning he helped out. Sometimes he woke up to feed baby while I pumped breast milk.
When time for him goes back work, mother in law came over stay a week to help, so I pump at night, mother in law feed baby, I try to nap in noon. There goes 3rd week.
4th week, we both woke up, hubby though have to work, still so nice help out. I getting tired as no mother in law to help. Morning when alone, I try to attend baby, if cannot then left crying there.
I sprained my back when bathing baby. From then on become husband's task to bath.
2nd month, baby still crying at night. Pretty tiring. We both snapped at each other sometimes cos too tired. We took shift look after baby. One timing his one timing mine.
Till almost end of month, I too tired to even wakes up pump out. Sleep throughout.
Anyway baby seems to adapt already, wakes once at night only.
Now no more waking up at night. Only sometimes. If baby wakes up and wailed, my husband will feed water.
Anyway, baby is here to enforce marriage, not to break up family.
btw your hubby can tahan waking up and go out the next day??? my hubby abit cannot lik that, need to drink chk essence even he didnt help out much during 1st 2 weeks...
When i was 3weeks pregnant, i went to my friend's place and i saw her nephew very cute so i wanted to carry but know that pregnant woman not allow so i ask my friend's mum...hee...hee...she say ok carry cos can't see your tummy yet....in the end....that poor boy cried for 3 days....aiyo...i felt so bad....
Based on my experience, not every child is pang tang. My friend's wife who is pregnant, carry my 2nd child when she is one month old and nothing happen....so i guess it's best not to carry any baby when you r preganant.