This is a discussion on Infidelity within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by Aries2Boy what we are talking about is 1-to-1 meet up with a new found friend of the ...
There are boys and then again, there are men....
Which one do you have in your life right now? That's the most important question....
Just a side note, you're starting to sound like a clone.... thinking of EDMW.... hehe....
Just curious, what are the valid reasons that you will allow your other half to meet up 1-to-1 with someone of the opposite gender, if they just got to know each other online and never seen each other before? And if one of you does not allow, and the other still went ahead, how will you feel?
Sorry huh, this is a fast thread... too fast too furious for me to read all...
meet 1-1 of opposite gender... any other assumptions? over tea/over cuppa in a friendly way or just hand something and go or to pick a fight with? haha must be careful before listing my e.gs hahaha okay ... off-hand (dont gun me down huh...):
1.) Over cuppa and tea.... meet up with my gf's bf (never met before, never spoken before) cuz my gf in trouble??
2.) Hand over something: online buyer-seller
3.) Pick a fight: ... I'll bring my army with me, definitely not alone haha
4.) if just know online, meet up for sake of chatting only.... sorry, not my cuppa, wht I'm attached or not... too fast, too furious for my taste
Quote: And if one of you does not allow, and the other still went ahead, how will you feel
hm.... not happy? But some may feel, okay , you are free to do as long as you are not caught red-handed?
But I thought more impt is will you think the one going is "up to mischief" or "dont love you at all "?? Perceptions... shaped by your values, your life experiences, trust, etc... wild thinking, guessing, suspicion.. and *bingo*... once a party does not trust the other enuff and start getting suspicious, even when there is "No infidelity", still ~the end~.... really depends on the couple themselves i think end of the day?
To add on: if my bf is cool about it, then I'm cool. Or else, if I really love him alot, I try to compromise (it has to go both ways), if both still can't compromise, then maybe the 2 are not compatible. And I'll quit the relsp.
hey, it's never easy having 2 seperate human with diff. mindset to see eye-to-eye on every aspects in life right? i will try to find out the "button" in my partner and avoid pressing it... the rest... explore and try to live in peace with each other
Last edited by JoyBliss; 29-10-2009 at 03:42 PM.
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