I married to my husband when I turns 21, was with him when I'm 18, got our own flat 5 years later, manage to get our first car at 2008, now we stay in EC and changed to a 7 seater.
Before I was pregnant our relationship was in its lowest point, I like to go out and he like to stay home, I always go diving and he always try to stop me but never success, cold war happens every time I back home from diving. Was thinking of divorce at the worst moment but did not proceed.
He earns much lesser than me, I pay for the housing loan ( 70% ), I pay for the car ( 100% ), not blame him for not earning enough, did not push him to find a better job since I can earn enough to maintain the family, but what makes me not happy is when you not contributing enough, and did not give me a single cent, what is your position to tell me to stay at home and dont't go out? I'm not using your money!
After I pregnant, I cant go out anymore and he very happy, we did not quarrel again until recently, he is not helping to take care of my girl, altot he is the one always want a baby. Everynight I wake up and feed and change diaper and he sleeps like a pig and snoring next to me, cant stand him so chased him out of the room and go sleep on sofa.
He is someone who have no initiative, everything must push behind again and again, I used to upset with him because he always wait until I scold him then he will do the house work, but now I just kick on his ass so he will do it.
I admit I'm easily boil up and when I'm angry I give him no face at all, can fuck him upside down infront of his mom, but from top till toe everything on him are from me, he dont even buy underwear for himself. My mom ask him why he can stand my bad temper he answered her, "she just no patient only, but after all she cares the family", i was quite impressive he will say such thing, but still I will scold him when he did not move his ass to help.
To me, love never last long, after a while, its the responsibility and familiar which will make you stay longer with each other, sometime I feel very tired as I have take charge of everything, pay everything, but I guess nothing much I can do unless change husband...well, no such plan yet...hahaha
Now with my baby girl, the focus point different already, even though I missing diving and outing, but my girl's need come before everything....