I was teary eyed after reading your post and I'm not even pregnant with fluctuating hormones! My dear I so feel for you. Sometimes men are true true idiots!!!!!! Sometimes I truly wish we have more daddies in this forum so they can enlighten us on why males behave that way. I'm not gonna ask you to try talking to him because I'm sure you've tried. I won't assume he has good intentions behind his insensitive behaviour either because based on good intentions alone, that cannot hold a marriage together for long. I think if he really wants the marriage to work he really should change his mindset and stop being so defensive and insensitive. But you have to know that it could be harder for him to change anything at all. Sigh I would suggest that you to speak to a counsellor, so you get things off your chest and that person can give you professional advise.