in laws jealous of the closeness btw you and bb?

[uddermummy]

my in laws are so weird.

i get the impression that they are jealous of the close relationship btw dear daughter and me, and are very worried that dear daughter not close to her daddy.

i think that's why they dont't really like me to breastfeed.

hello! my dear daughter drinks my milk, sleeps with me, i take care of her 24/7, entertain her, carry her, clean her shit, dig out her pi sai, bath her etc. How can dear daughter not be close to me?

they once in a while play with her and they expect her to be close to them???

[lis]

i got onie one word to describe your in laws.. they r 'FREAK'..!! it's onie natural that the child is close to the mom wen they r the one taking care of the child 24/7.. what do they expect..?? if they want the dad to b as close.. then make sure the dad put in efforts too.. then it's balance.. *sigh*..

[CanCanMum]

Originally Posted by uddermummy my in laws are so weird. i get the impression that they are jealous of the close relationship btw dear daughter and me, and are very worried that dear daughter not close to her daddy. i think that's why they dont't really like me to breastfeed. hello! my dear daughter drinks my milk, sleeps with me, i take care of her 24/7, entertain her, carry her, clean her shit, dig out her pi sai, bath her etc. How can dear daughter not be close to me? they once in a while play with her and they expect her to be close to them???

uh-humph~~~pisai againz????????

ya its inlaws rivary symptoms~~~

[apollo]

agree with lis! which child not close to mother?? even if one's mother is wking and can't take care of the baby full time, the baby will also know who's his mother and close to her.. let alone you're taking care of your dear daughter 24/7 + bf-ing!!

since you think they're jealous, then SHOW them how CLOSE you and your dear daughter are!! just them jealous until go bang wall!!

[apollo]

Originally Posted by CanCanMum uh-humph~~~pisai againz???????? ya its inlaws rivary symptoms~~~

nowadays pisai become out HOT topic ... next time start a thread "what color is your baby's pisai!"

[CanCanMum]

Originally Posted by reginakoh nowadays pisai become out HOT topic ... next time start a thread "what color is your baby's pisai!"

............................ dirty lols~~~eeks~~~~

[nsync_su]

Huh!?!?! Whats wrong with your In-Laws?? Mothers are always close with their babies due to the 24/4hrs care whattt!!! If they want the child to be soooo close with their son, ask him to grow breasts !! Siow .. like that also wanna be jealous.

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by nsync_su Huh!?!?! Whats wrong with your In-Laws?? Mothers are always close with their babies due to the 24/4hrs care whattt!!! If they want the child to be soooo close with their son, ask him to grow breasts !! Siow .. like that also wanna be jealous.

hahaha... my husband got man boobs, he just doesn't have the milk!!!

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by CanCanMum uh-humph~~~pisai againz???????? ya its inlaws rivary symptoms~~~

yeah man, they are also very worried that dear daughter is closer to my mum...

every time will ask my baby, 'you dont't recognise me ? ai yoh, no wonder cos you only see me once a week"

eveyr time they want to ask me something, they will pretend to ask baby. they pretend, i also pretend not to hear loh. they ask baby what, baby cannot answer then too bad loh.

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by reginakoh agree with lis! which child not close to mother?? even if one's mother is wking and can't take care of the baby full time, the baby will also know who's his mother and close to her.. let alone you're taking care of your dear daughter 24/7 + bf-ing!! since you think they're jealous, then SHOW them how CLOSE you and your dear daughter are!! just them jealous until go bang wall!!

i think they already want to bang wall

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by reginakoh nowadays pisai become out HOT topic ... next time start a thread "what color is your baby's pisai!"

latest update: it's light green. wahaha

[meiteoh]

One of my friends is experiencing just that with her mother in law - she's staying with them and her mother in law will go all out to diss my friend. She will tell my friend's daugther things like how the food my friend cook is not nice, ask her not to eat and then she'll spoil my friend's daughter by giving her things like juice, and what-not before her feeding time so when it's time to eat, the small girl will puke out all her milk and etc - making my friend look like the useless mother. The mother in law will also complain that the daughter spent too much time with my friend and show sour face and everything.

My friend initially found it very difficult to tahan her and her hubby always thought that she was exagerrating until he heard it himself. After that, he spoke to the parents about it. They stopped but of course, with black and sour face plus sometimes they'll give my friend the evil eye and drop hints about how close she is to her daugther. =.=

She's quite tired of it (because to complain is one thing but her in-laws will spoil her daugther and allow her daugther to throw tantrums, eat junk and etc) and so they are planning to move out next year. Am looking for a place now and all.

Sometimes I think old people dont't understand that being a grandparent is not the same as being a parent. No matter how often you visit, how often you play with a child, you are NOT the parent and thus will never ever have the same bond as a child has with his/her parent. (That whole "not close to Daddy" is just an excuse , the way I see it.)

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by meiteoh One of my friends is experiencing just that with her mother in law - she's staying with them and her mother in law will go all out to diss my friend. She will tell my friend's daugther things like how the food my friend cook is not nice, ask her not to eat and then she'll spoil my friend's daughter by giving her things like juice, and what-not before her feeding time so when it's time to eat, the small girl will puke out all her milk and etc - making my friend look like the useless mother. The mother in law will also complain that the daughter spent too much time with my friend and show sour face and everything. My friend initially found it very difficult to tahan her and her hubby always thought that she was exagerrating until he heard it himself. After that, he spoke to the parents about it. They stopped but of course, with black and sour face plus sometimes they'll give my friend the evil eye and drop hints about how close she is to her daugther. =.= She's quite tired of it (because to complain is one thing but her in-laws will spoil her daugther and allow her daugther to throw tantrums, eat junk and etc) and so they are planning to move out next year. Am looking for a place now and all.

wow, that's really bad. thank god i'm not living with in laws. very hard to live with older folks cos they just have diff ways of doing things.

[lis]

the older folks nowadays r not the same as our grandmother generations... they r harder to please.. coz everiting is so advanced now.. so they tend to take tings for granted.. dont't you guys tink so..??

[stonston]

My own mother sometimes will jealous when my boy runs to me for help instead of run to her. But she understands that i'm the mummy afterall.

there's bound to be jealousy, but they gotta remember who was the one who carried the baby for 9mths and gave birth to the baby!!

[mag_huiling]

Originally Posted by stonston My own mother sometimes will jealous when my boy runs to me for help instead of run to her. But she understands that i'm the mummy afterall. there's bound to be jealousy, but they gotta remember who was the one who carried the baby for 9mths and gave birth to the baby!!

Agree! 9 mths in our tummy. we're the one sacrificing our look and figure, yet they dont want baby to get close to us.. WTH!

Sometimes feel like slapping my mother in law man! my girl somehow will recognise my smell n doesnt want anyone else to carry her.. when my mother in law carry her, she'll cry so loud as if my mother in law bullied her.. so the unhappy mother in law will say things like "why you want your mummy dont want me?"

And when baby is lying down on her side facing me, mother in law will turn baby to another side to face her and say "come, face here, dont see your mummy!" *ARGHH...* (why would anyone wanna face a bi-sexual?!!)

[stonston]

Actually I do teach my boy to do things to make my mum happy. Sometimes give in a little make the old folks happy will keep them off your back.

If your mother in law as why you want mummy dont want me, just tell your mother in law, cos he/she is MY BABY, of cos he/she wants ME.

[Lin-12]

Ya its always like that. My mother in law also will always say to my dear daughter something like hw cum last time you used to let me carry but now you forget about me? Come on she onli visited her not mre than 8 times since my dear daughter came to tis world. And dear daughter is 1 yr old now. then she will always comment things like dear daughter look like my dear husband and nth like me. And dear daughter will definitely call Daddy first instead of Mummy. WTH. She's rly impossible. Recently, i just celebrated my dear daughter's 1st bday party and everything frm buffet to cake was paid by me. Can you imagine wen my friends and relatives were finding me in order for em to pass me red packet, she can signal to em asking em to pass to my hubby scare i'll kip e red packets in my own pocket. And on top of that, wen she rch my place (currently staying with my mother) she just lie down on my bed legs wide...machiam her own bed...and can even lie on my mother's bed after that with the door closed..So pissed off with tis party. Luckily i dont live w her or else i think i will go bonkers already. She has never ever buy anything for me since i got married with my dear husband and not even a bottle of chicken essence wen i was in e hospital. She doesnt even have e slightest respect for me.

[Domique]

Yup my own mum too.
Always wanna carry and dont let me carry even when baby cry and needed me to comfort.
Sigh...

Grandparents symptoms.

Originally Posted by stonston My own mother sometimes will jealous when my boy runs to me for help instead of run to her. But she understands that i'm the mummy afterall. there's bound to be jealousy, but they gotta remember who was the one who carried the baby for 9mths and gave birth to the baby!!

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by mag_huiling Agree! 9 mths in our tummy. we're the one sacrificing our look and figure, yet they dont want baby to get close to us.. WTH! Sometimes feel like slapping my mother in law man! my girl somehow will recognise my smell and doesnt want anyone else to carry her.. when my mother in law carry her, she'll cry so loud as if my mother in law bullied her.. so the unhappy mother in law will say things like "why you want your mummy dont want me?" And when baby is lying down on her side facing me, mother in law will turn baby to another side to face her and say "come, face here, dont see your mummy!" *ARGHH...* (why would anyone wanna face a bi-sexual?!!)

wah, your mother in law is a bi??? so happening .

yeah, quite irritating ? they've had their chance to have their own kids, when can't they just give us space to love our own bbs???

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by stonston Actually I do teach my boy to do things to make my mum happy. Sometimes give in a little make the old folks happy will keep them off your back. .

agree!!! even tho i damn pissed off at the things they do and say, i will still grit my teeth and give face to them.

i will say things like, 'baby, who's carrying you? grandma/ grandpa hah? wah you look so comfortable huh?' and try to make baby smile when they are carrying her.

after all, they are the grandparents and are old .

but sometimes i get so pissed off i just keep quiet everytime they say or ask anything.

[Domique]

wa ha ha.. .so fake!
me too..

I would say: wow... gong gong/ carry .... gong gong love you so much you know.
OR
gong gong/ bao bei ley you are!

heehee

Originally Posted by uddermummy agree!!! even tho i damn pissed off at the things they do and say, i will still grit my teeth and give face to them. i will say things like, 'baby, who's carrying you? grandma/ grandpa hah? wah you look so comfortable huh?' and try to make baby smile when they are carrying her. after all, they are the grandparents and are old . but sometimes i get so pissed off i just keep quiet everytime they say or ask anything.

[uddermummy]

Originally Posted by Domique wa ha ha.. .so fake! me too.. I would say: wow... gong gong/ carry .... gong gong love you so much you know. OR gong gong/ bao bei ley you are! heehee

hahaha, yeah loh, but bo pian. sometimes just keep telling myself that they are still the grandparents loh. at least they dont't hate my baby (even if they can't stand my guts!).

[Ting]

hmmm, jialat. my mum always laugh at me say pin anything wrong will go find my dad or mum first n not me.
-.-"
but now pin will come look for me . better than last time. hehe.

[Funz]

Sometimes it is not so much a case of them not being happy that the baby is so close to you but more of a concern that the baby may be too sticky to you. But just that they go about it in a negative way.

My mum kept commenting things like aiyah he stuck to your breast oredi . Why dont you express instead of direct BF to my sis last time. She also told my sis to let go and let other pple like her ILs handle the baby. Or else next time very sticky. My sis cannot let go and true enuf the kid will not accept anyone else. And she is totally drained cos now nobody want to attempt to even take the kid from her after all these time that she refuse to let go.