I think we sometimes tend to focus on the negatives rather than the positives. My mother in law is not a bad person. I have to say that. She's prob had primary school education and is chinese ed. She tries her best to communicate with me but at times the lines get crossed. To her, to nag it is to love. She tries to cook food that she thinks I like if we're having dinner at her place. She's a very headstrong person like me. At that same time, I've seen her and felt that she has taken steps back and bite her tongue even though she may or may not agree with our decisions. After being married for less than 3 years, we told her one week for that I was leaving Spore to study for 10 months. Told her that I was going to Sydney to do my masters and left her son behind. She was quite encouraging. I would imagine some MILs kicking a fuss. When I came back to Spore after my masters, again, I packed my bags 8 months later to move to Hong Kong to work without her son. Again, she did have her misgivings but she didn't say much in our faces. Two months later, husband got a job in Hong Kong and he moved to be with me. Sure, she did nag and grumble but she did also show off to relatives that her son and daughter in law are working overseas. I'm sure she's showing off to her friends that her son is flying to Hong kong for a holiday next week. She tries to be nice and make things work but like I mention, we have different wavelengths and sometimes we may have our conflicts but I'm glad that husband is always on my side.