I also never celebrate
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My sister In law msm everyone for the mother's day celebration again. In fact I am not really keen on this type of celebration. They celebrate mother's day, father's day and birthday but I dont't see the point of celebration as they only celebrate because everyone is doing it.
How about other mummies out there?
I also never celebrate
we do celebrate for our mum and other occassions within my family.
but just like our usual weekly gathering.
have dinner and chit chat at my mum's house.
oni thing extras are cake and gifts on special occassions.
we dont't fancy going out for a meal on these days where we know it's going to be crowded.
whereas my hubby side, they dont't really celebrate any occassions.
Last time sister In law also like to call us to celebrate mothers/fathers day, mother in law/father in law bday, even her bro's kids bday we must turn up(previously).BUt now no more cos everyone so bz & worst thing, they always love to celebrate on ACTUAL day, even if that day is a weekday, die die also must turn up & i super dislike to go out after work cos so tiring. lucky no more or else i also wont turn up.
i personally dont like to "entertain" such event like birthday, xmas, house warming etc... even for my own birthday, i also dont lik to celebrate, this yr is my 21st birthday and i even told my hubby dont hav to get me anything or celebrate cos i think birthday, xmas, or whatever day it is, every yr also have.. if every event also wanna celebrate, very busy ...
back to the topic, mother's day! for my family, my mum is a very "chin cai" person and she's always wking on mother's day so we seldom celebrate. cos to us, as long as we can gather once in a while for dinner together, can alrdy, doesn't need to "purposely" choose a day just to hav dinner together...
as for my in-laws, i so lucky that they dont celebrate mother/father's day but they do celebrate birthday every yr..
Sorry ? When is mother's day?
I just bought bird nest for my mother. And as for my mother in law, my hubby will give her an ang bao as she is a money grubber. Really! She loves money more than anything else & whatever stuff we give her, be it food or whatever, she will want to give it away to one of her children saying that she can buy the same item at a cheaper price or she does not really want the item. But when it comes to money, IMMEDIATELY she will lock it up inside her cupboard. And no one else has access to that cupboard except her. I just hope that whatever amount my hubby gives her, she will be contented & not complain or compare.
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most of us are mothers here.
wonder if you will expect something for yourself from husband or your kids?
hehe.. seems like most of us are talking about our mums and mils only.
i'll give my mum ang bao for mother's day, whereas fir my mother in law, she dont't seem to be bothered about it, and if we order fastfood delivery to celebrate with her, she just eat, and as if we owe her a meal...
he replied "you not my mother, you're my wife.. very.day then buy thing for you"
then i explained to him, before baby is capable of doing his own gifts for me, he should "represent" baby and he asked me "got such law meh?"
i feel like slapping him that moment!!!! LOL!
oh ya, if from my baby, i hope he'll wrte me a "happy mother's day" when he learn hw to write.. but still got a long way to go.. hehe..
sigh i hope one day my hubby will become more romantic without me saying/teaching..
insensitive i would say. hehe
my husband cannot say not romantic but he's more meow and thrifty.
he will usually ask about the damage (pocket) first before he decide.
most of the things i will decide and tell him then he go assess can . no options, can neg a bit oni.
All these festival is nothing to me but holiday for me to rest at home. What is important to me is the link between each parties and not just gathered everyone tog, say hello, eat then bye bye. In fact, this type of celebration is only for those who seldom gather and come tog because everyone is doing it and if you dont't, you are a freak.
For my family, we do celebrate. Mother's and father's day as well as their birthdays. It is usually something simple and we will give our parents a token ang bao. We are a close family anyway, meeting every weekend. These occasions are just excuses for us the have something a bit different from the weekend dinners that we usually have each week. And being 1/2 peranakan, food is a big feature in our family. haha.
I guess it depends on your family tradition. I am brought up in a family where we will definitely celebrate our elder's birthdays and commemorate special occasions like M&D days and also death anniversaries. These are traditions that I intend to pass on to my kids. It helps to bring the family together, even the extended family. And we cousins take turns each year to organise our reunion dinners which our kids look forward to as well. I will also use the kids' birthdays to get everyone together for the day.
For most of us, we are so busy with our day to day lives that it is easy to just let things happen and before long, you will only meet these pple maybe like once a year and then eventually maybe not at all if no effort is made to meet up during special occasions.
we do have a simple did not on mother day for my dear husband's side... it was initated by my father-in-law though my mother-in-law is still recovering from a stoke from hosptial... it was for my sister-in-law and me... was nice and sweet of him...
as for my own side, coz both did not was on the same day so i could not make it to my own family but did give a red packet to my own mother...
as for my dear husband, i do hope that he can kinds of make it special for me coz it is my first mother day... however, he just sleep throughout the day till 7plus at night while i spent the day doing houseworks... haha
as for my dear daughter or dear son next time, i dont need anything from her or him, as long as he is happy and healthy, it is more than enough... =)