Stay a distance and not talk to her unnecessarily
Talk to her, try to understand her & her strange habits
Talk to your husband
Pray that she will kick the bucket soon
This is a discussion on My mother-in-law, Mdm L rom hell within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by noelsmum No ! She only have secondary 2 education, chinese ed. She was a factory worker. Used ...
whn she knew i was preggie she wished that I abort it away. asked me to clean this n that, climb here n there, paint the house, clean the window. (all these was done before we rom) she have gt 2daughters but do not understand why she can't ask her daughters to do it.
whn I miscarriage she wished that her son will not marry me anymore cos no more baby, but still hubby wanna go ahead wid what has been planned, be it wid baby or w/o. I was so devastated wid the loss of our little one and she have the cheeks to call hubby while we r in the hospital n rush hubby to go home for dinner (we are waiting for the cleaning surgery of miscarriage as our little one die insides me) never once did my 'mother in law' or 'father in law' acc us to hospital, it's always my parents who put off their work n come b wid us.
After ROM she wished we would divorce and even told my mum I have no upbringing n my brains grow grass. I shld have rebutted on the upbringing part cos both the daughters have none of it. they never once call me 'dao sao' or even acknowledge me and yet they have more upbringing then me?? tsk tsk. I srly have no idea what are they thinking.
'father in law' thinks his 2daughters very precious and said 'I no son nvm one. I still gt my 2 baobei daughterand many godsons' Now are the daughter gonna pass dw his surname or his godson will follow his surname?? srly no brains. and even told hubby wife run away thn find new one !! like srly as if they very rich like that.
we dont't even have a wedding banquet (partly cos I dont't want it and another part is they can't even afford to open just 1 table!!) say rom jiu can no need customary or what. wtf!! and say until I after their money (they r poor ass wid no savings, father in law have to bootlick sister In law's bf family) father in law never once saw my parents! never even come up to my house to discuss about wedding stuffs, never turn up for our rom(claims that gt to work!! whn my whole family put off their work to attend my rom!!)
we moved out of their house after knowing I was preggie again, never once did they ask about this baby. after I gave birth, my mum was nice enuff to let my hubby inform his parents. they came to the hospital the next day n never even acknowledge my parents whn saw them!! best was I'm bf-ing behind the curtains n they just opened it!!! lucky I finish bf-ing!!! afterwhich they never cane to visit me n even ask hubby to bring Bby go his grandma house let grandma see. I was like ' my grandma have to come visit me frm so far so what makes your grandma so big that I have to bring Bby to HDR personally!???' I was still doing my confinement!!!
we never went back for cny this yr n I'm not gg back next yr too. baby have not once set foot in their house yet and will never do so.
Omg princessyuki... your situation so jialat... But as what my friend said before... It's better to draw line earlier than later... Not I'm being mean but next time touch wood they got old folk illness you no need to pay medical bills or care about them... If I'm your hubby I won't bother to bring baby to grandma house... Since they dont bother about you why you bother about them? Rite... They dont appreciate what you do at all
yes babymoo, clean cut is better. since they never acknowledge me at all. both sister In law gt all their cousins n relatives to attack me back then. they even say my mum sell daughter whn they give 2k ping Jin, mum took 1k n left 1k for us (we still have car rental to pay,photo album, gown deposit n our honeymoon too) my mother in law took our 1k away n whn I ask for it back she say I dont't know tradition n the money spend . still say my mum sell daughter. the 'Si Dian jin' frm in law is so thin just $1060 only!! my 'Jia zhuang' is close to 4k!! so my mum is selling daughter?? my mum earns nth back at all .
I told hubby I will never forget what they have said or done to me. n I wont let them touch my baby at all.
n sister In law(s) r horrible. you cn never believe who is she. once so famous in NYP
OMG!!!! 2000 say sell daughter too much man.... my mother in law at first wanna gig me her old jewelleries .... is my hubby help me say then i get a decent gold.....but iso around 1k only....ZZZzz....is like that ....me too can't forget what is said n done to me.....=(
wish me luck man.....going to start my ivf on monday.....>.<
your in laws rly so sickening , lucky my mother in law dont dare ask me do anything so far , tho i can sense she dont rly like girls which i'm expecting now but still never ask me do tis do that , else she cfm tio scold by my mom ..
NYP !! hmm , i tink i know who .. LOL so famous until her video was around EVERYWHERE? lol
My mother in law is also very health-conscious and always like to say this is unhealthy, that is unhealthy etc.
I know everything needs to be taken in moderation. I cannot take it when she keeps on saying and nagging. My mother in law is into direct sales mkting and she will sell various products at different times, depending on the latest fad. Different types of health supplements. She will give some of the products to her children to try (son & daughters) but she has never offered to me anything.
During my several mths of pregnancy (34 weeks now), only once they prepared bird's nest soup for me and asked my hubby to bring to me. It was because my hubby asked them to prepare for me. You think they would do it on their own initiative? So what if the baby boy I'm carrying will help to carry on the family lineage? They dont't even show enough care and concern to me.
In fact, for our housewarming, they didn't even give us any ang pow! I'm not expecting a lot. Just a token sum for blessing. Neither did they bother to attend our housewarming lunch reception. mother in law busy with her direct sales seminar. father in law was overseas. In contrast, my parents attended and gave us an ang pow to give their blessings.
For our wedding, my parents-in-law only gave us the ang pow during tea ceremony. Actually my father in law still owed me the $$ for 2 tables as he donated the ang pows away. I paid for the wedding dinner reception using my credit card. I didn't ask him for it until this year (more than 1 year later) and he still doesn't pay me back. He said my husband should be the one who pays me. But he was the one who donated the money to his association!
Both my hubby and I paid a lot of money for our wedding expenses (honeymoon, photo shoot, wedding dinner) and our own home & renovation. I dont't expect my parents-in-law to pay anything for us, but at least they should not make things worse! (They are super stingy! They didn;t even bother to give token sum ang pows to my 3 'jie meis' during my wedding when we went over for tea ceremony... My parents, unlike them, gave ang pows to everyone, including my hubby's 3 'xiong this', make-up artist, videographer, photographer.)
The things I have done for them I do not wish to repeat, as I have mentioned them in the Jan 2012 Mummies page. It is just not reciprocal.
I wonder when our baby boy is born, whether they would even give an ang pow or buy a set of baby clothes for our baby!
Last edited by Excited Mummy; 03-12-2011 at 05:47 PM.
damn !! mother in law turn up on my doorstep without informing .. HOW RUDE !!!
princessyuki, i empathise with you...
my in-laws already know I'm expecting a baby boy since week 16 of my pregnancy... but i dont't think they really care.
She didn't even give me the 龙fong bracelet. Later I overheard her telling her sister that it was because I dont't like yellow gold. I told my husband. It is not about her not knowing tradition and therefore not buying me the stuff but it is how she simply twist her words and make me looks like the ugly one.
She even ask ME how much Ang bao she should give my 姐妹 and I only have three of them.
It's Sunday!! Yes, my weekly ordeal. Today that Mdm L hinted to us that her friend's daughter very very good and 孝顺. The daughter is lawyer and she knows the mother old already and nothing to do, so bought the mother a casino membership. So the girl is very very good girl.
My husband look at me and smiled. I looked away.
Sick isn't it??
monster-in-law have no choce but to buy Si Dian Jin cos my parents say it's a MUST!! so she LL . else she confirm cn save $$$ on Si Dian Jin .