Only child

[smurferoos]

Hi,

I am thinking of stopping at 1 child? Any of you planning the same or have done so? Can share? Cos i feel there are so many misconceptions about only child, till now i am still in dilemma, sometimes i want a companion for my child, sometimes i feel very contented with just her....ARGH!!! Help...

[sweety]

Hi,

In fact, me also share the same mindet as you to stop at only 1 child after giving birth to my boy. However, after more than a yr, I start to have the urge of having a 2nd one, hoping to have a girl.

Currently, me & my hubby are trying our luck.

[maine78]

After i gave birth, i was also thinking one is enuff. But my friends with >1 kid say next time, when i see my dear son playing alone, i won't think this way . I want to have another kid but maybe after i start work

[LoVeS]

Originally Posted by maine78 After i gave birth, i was also thinking one is enuff. But my friends with >1 kid say next time, when i see my dear son playing alone, i won't think this way . I want to have another kid but maybe after i start work

same manz i aso want to stop at 1 is enuff coz MS is enuff to scare me off but my friends keep telling me 1 is not enuff

[`julee]

.. i want to stop at one.. after dear husband reli got the clue about the contraceptive and keep calling my dear daughter, "my one and only baby" ,took a year for him to realise, that i want one. he's quite upset..
but, i do want #2, but just not yet.
im quite content with one.....

[smurferoos]

Yeah, now that my daughter is 2 years plus, i am itching to have a second child, cos i feel that my daughter is quite lonely and always play pretend with the toys, she loves it when i arrange for playdate with the friends...

So I am not really planning for a sceond child, but we are not taking any precaution, so will let you know if there are any 'surprises'

But to go through it again, i am really quite scared as i had mild depression after my first child....

[Carol]

I want a second one and hopefully daughter . But sometimes when Im so tired with dear son , the thought One is enough comes to my mind . dear husband says leave it to fate . Will have means will have . Perhaps one day miss my pill and got it . Lol !

[Agnes Josephine]

I also thought of having one in the initial stage... BUt after I delivered my son, I changed my mindset... Cuz I'm a kids lover... So will try for a 2nd next year... Hopefully a girl...

[LoVeS]

Originally Posted by Carol I want a second one and hopefully daughter . But sometimes when Im so tired with dear son , the thought One is enough comes to my mind . dear husband says leave it to fate . Will have means will have . Perhaps one day miss my pill and got it . Lol !

you dont really have to miss your pill to get baby coz my dear husband's bro aso a failure of pill although everyday mother in law take.

[LoVeS]

double post, mod pls delete tis.

[CynCyn]

At times I will have the thinking of sticking to one child when I'm drained out of me energies just by handling my dear son alone . At the same time I love to have at least 2 more children that is if the next one is a boy I will try for another girl .
But the thought of having another child worries me as I do not know how to share my love for both children equally . Giving equal attention etc.
The thought of it gives me headache .

[LoVeS]

same...used to tink of having 2 kids max but then after having VERY cranky dear son since he is birth till recently i am kinda scared although i really wish to have a girl but then will have 2nd thought sumore i just want to give all my love to my dear son as i tink childhood is very important to a person especially when in future they grow old ppl tend to tink back their childhood life how is it etc.

[vion]

I've 2 dds n if you ask me I really also wished to have a dear son too.... But will not try now cos it's not a good time.

One of my friends who has a dear daughter has always been telling me that 1 is enuff for her. I wld tell her dear daughter will b alone if something were to happen to her n her dear husband. She'll have no one to discuss n share prob with. I really like tis sentence that was said from a father to a daughter.... your sibling will be the oni one related to you (in terms of immediate family) when your mum n I r no longer around.

As for the division of love between 2 kids, I'm pretty sure I'm not doing a good job either... I do feel that I tend to favour my elder dear daughter more, however, I'm also trying hard to b fair to both. There's no way of balancing love I shld say but just try cos sometimes really depends on the situation at the pt of time ...

[vodkager]

Originally Posted by vion I've 2 dds n if you ask me I really also wished to have a dear son too.... But will not try now cos it's not a good time. One of my friends who has a dear daughter has always been telling me that 1 is enuff for her. I wld tell her dear daughter will b alone if something were to happen to her n her dear husband. She'll have no one to discuss n share prob with. I really like tis sentence that was said from a father to a daughter.... your sibling will be the oni one related to you (in terms of immediate family) when your mum n I r no longer around. As for the division of love between 2 kids, I'm pretty sure I'm not doing a good job either... I do feel that I tend to favour my elder dear daughter more, however, I'm also trying hard to b fair to both. There's no way of balancing love I shld say but just try cos sometimes really depends on the situation at the pt of time ...

i dont't agree w this statement.. i see siblings fighting among each other for assets.. that's even more heartbreaking..

im stopping at one.. im not gonna plan for another one.. unless i accident again, then i will just go with the flow.. let nature take its course.. im not on pills.. but im not trying to concieve-ing too.. like what carol says, will have means will have.. it's all fated..

[Admin-02]

This is a tough choice. For my own sake, I will stop at one. For the sake of my son, I should have a 2nd child. At this point of time, I am contented to have only one child. To a certain extent, this is a selfish decision. Many things are beyond our control. My son popped out even tho we took precautions will let nature take its course.

[CynCyn]

Originally Posted by Gina Chua This is a tough choice. For my own sake, I will stop at one. For the sake of my son, I should have a 2nd child. At this point of time, I am contented to have only one child. To a certain extent, this is a selfish decision. Many things are beyond our control. My son popped out even tho we took precautions will let nature take its course.

I agree with you '' For my own sake, I will stop at one. For the sake of my son, I should have a 2nd child.''

[ethans mummy]

Originally Posted by CynCyn I agree with you '' For my own sake, I will stop at one. For the sake of my son, I should have a 2nd child.''

yah i also agreed!!! if oni 1 will be very lonely ! No companion! No siblings!


LONELY...LONELY!

[jedamum]

Originally Posted by CynCyn I agree with you '' For my own sake, I will stop at one. For the sake of my son, I should have a 2nd child.''

For me "For my career sake, I should have stop at one. For my son's sake, I had 2 (cos he said he want a sibling). For my dear husband's sake, I will stop at 2 (cos no $$ for retirement ).

[smurferoos]

I totally agree, for my own sake i will really stop at 1, cos after the second one i will take 1-2 years off work, really can sa good bye to my career, but for the sake of my daugher i will have another one....

but i also agree that sometimes siblings might not be close, so i really hope if i have another 1 i can have another daugher!! hopefully they will be close like me and my sis...

but let nature takes it course....

[Mrs Xie]

For me, one is enough... tho ppl keep saying only child would be lonely, only child would behave differently when they grow up, but I think as long parents giving the only child enough love and attention, everything will goes well.... I have friends and relatives who r only child and they are fine and happy anyway.........

[LoVeS]

another prob for only child is that they will b over pampered end up bcome pampered kid or spoilt brats.

[bpquek]

I was thinking if one day we were all gone and left with #1 alone, so had been considering and considering to have #2, that's why my elder dear son and 2nd dear son gap so far. How my elder dear son can't wait that his bro will grow up faster so that he has his bro to play with.

Agreed that siblings fighting among each other, just like my il's siblings. Siblings' conflict was due to how parent treat and lead each and other child.

[Mrs Xie]

Originally Posted by bpquek I was thinking if one day we were all gone and left with #1 alone, so had been considering and considering to have #2, that's why my elder dear son and 2nd dear son gap so far. How my elder dear son can't wait that his bro will grow up faster so that he has his bro to play with. Agreed that siblings fighting among each other, just like my il's siblings. Siblings' conflict was due to how parent treat and lead each and other child.

Hmm.... you have a point there... my dear daughter will be left alone if one day we're gone.... but.... I hope by then she got happily married .... or maybe make her married off early? Whahha.... just kidding.

[MioPio]

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another prob for only child is that they will b over pampered end up bcome pampered kid or spoilt brats.

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I have to disagree with this statement because I dont't over pampered my child. I have friends who are only child and they grew up very well mannered, well balanced adults.

[LoVeS]

Originally Posted by MioPio Quote I have to disagree with this statement because I dont't over pampered my child. I have friends who are only child and they grew up very well mannered, well balanced adults.

FYI i didnt say ALL child will turn spoilt brat just that i say ONLY child might face tis prob.