Girl, I feel your pain because I go through the same thing as well with my parents...since I got pregnant and until today...nothing has change. They see their constant criticism and "advice" as concern but I see it as meddling and nagging. And they do it to my bro as well. His way of tackling it? dont't come home to visit my parents so often and when he does come home, he doesn't talk to my parents at all.
Since they arrived a few weeks ago, they have been harping on the fact that my hubby and I have a lot of things - hello, we are two people with an apartment, how not to get barang? My parents think I should eat out more often, entertain guests in restaurants instead of at home, that I shouldn't decorate my house (even though the stuff are gifts from my in-laws), that I shouldn't buy so many things and so forth.
My dad is constantly criticizing - nothing hubby and I do is good enough for him. Even things like how hubby pack our things also he must criticize. He is always constantly telling me things like "you should watch where you're walking otherwise you'll drop your baby", "you should do this", "you should do that". And what's worse is that he can criticize other people but when he does something wrong, you cannot say a thing. Like leaving the lights on, and leaving dirty dishes in the sink and all - other people cannot do it but when he does it, it's perfectly fine. Why? "I'm not paying for the electricity". My mum always tells him that it's not his house yet he treats the place as if it's his and my hubby and I have to adjust our lives to suit his. In fact, I was even told that my hubby telling my dad to be more considerate of others who are staying in the house is rude. Yet he can go around breaking my things and dirtying the place without helping to clean up at all and not even apologizing for it. =.=
What's worse is that he's constantly disturbing my daugther when she wants to go to sleep. When I explain nicely to him that she needs to sleep, he goes "Never mind . New mums are always overprotective". WTH. Ingat my daugther is a toy - want to play, must stay awake for him, but when it's time to jaga her or when she fusses, my dad doesn't help out. Carry her also he refuse on the stupid excuse that he's scared he'll drop her. Instead he puts her on a small cushion on the sofa - reason being that it's good for her. WTH.
why'know, when I was pregnant, my mum forbid me to buy any baby clothes, saying that they were expensive in Switzerland, let her buy, blah, blah. She even wanted to buy the car seat, stroller and all AND ship the whole shebang to Switzerland from KL. And diapers - did I mention that she shipped disposable diapers over? Aiiii. But she's nothing compared to my dad. At least she knows when to back off. My dad? Totally different story. Everything must adjust to his desires, his needs and everything must be done according to what he sees to be fit and proper.
Like your parents, I know they mean well and all but I just wish they would take a step back and just learn to let go, let us live our own lives the way we want to live it.