This is a discussion on Pregnant, jobless & depressed within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Hi all, I have been feeling very down tis week... had beed crying almost everyday since tues... I was retrenched ...
I have been feeling very down tis week... had beed crying almost everyday since tues...
I was retrenched in Feb after my ex-company founds out that i'm pregnant, but i'm not able to get any compensation/maternity pay due to i was 1 week short from my 3mth. Till now i have been looking out for a job...
I got an offer on tue and was goin to sign the letter, but after make known to them that i am pregnant & going to due in aug, they rejected me.
I'm very stressed & depressed now due to being jobless and financial wise is very hard.. i got alots of bills to pay as well as those delivery charges etc.... I have been borrowing money from my sister very month since mar to cover some of the bills... but i feel so bad cos she also got her own family to support... and my hubby take home pay is not alot... less then 3k...
Somemore my due date is getting very near, both my & hubby are very stressed.... I have never seen my hubby break down before... i was very scare and sad when he did a few days ago....
hang on there. you are already 30 wkd pregnant and it's important for you to stay positive.
I was also not working from the day I found out I was preggie. I left due to the heavy commitment from my work. From then no more buying things for me and we both try our best to save every cent. My
hubby also not earning much.
When I was in my last trimester I was quite negative too.
But I always believe "ship reach habour sure become straight" Chinese idioms.
Do you happen to have any insurance, such as life insurance or endownment that you can get $$ buy cancelling or loan?
you may also get some passdown items for your coming baby in this forum. There are many kind mummy whom are more than willing to pass down some items to you. This will save a lot too.
actually, i dont see why you all cant survive with an almost 3K take home pay?
if you dont spend unneccessarily, n save on scrimp, im sure you can live a comfortable life.
do some proper planning n limit yourself to certain amt to spend, no problem one.
alternatively, you can try to take up a part time job.
Actually when i'm about 7 month preggy due to some reason... then i also very depress... but gal dont't get too depress.. everything will be ok... my hubby also bring home about 2k plus after CPF... but we just save .. no choice... buy cheap clothes for your baby... cause newborn no need so ex clothes... & also just dont't go shopping for a while... just hang on.. things will sure work out...
Now you r already about 30 weeks plus... so you must stay relax... stress is not good for you & your baby... your baby will feel the stress too...
before i comment i guess perhaps you had lotsa monetary commitments on hand, with this sudden news it becomes overbearing on your financial planning............
coz personally if i had about almost 3k take home pay, i can do with lotsa necessary items. Coz this amount is pretty comfy for an average spending family.
now that you r nearer to due date, the last thing you wanna do is to sink into depresssion. Somemore you gonna be preparing yourself to be taking care of a newborn soon, which can be very draining on your energy..........
sO try and calm down, have a talk with hubby, take out items that can be saved, items that can defer loan or any options available, while you do some planning of funds. Things can work out. (天無絕人之路)
i find part time jobs ok for you as an option as you can choose the days you wanna work, like 3 days workweek that kind.
thanks all for your encouragements....
yes i do have alot of financial burdens, was able to cope when i have stable income then...
for baby clothes and stuff i have passed downs from my sister & sister In law, so this r not so much of a concern....and also i have not been buy stuffs since the sudden loss of income...
I have try to apply for part-time jobs as well.. but so far none reply.. dont know izzit bcos of i'm abit high profile, i was in the IT industry as PM previously...
Yes Crescent, dont stress yourself so much. Now most important is to relax yourself and prepare the arrival of your bundle of joy. For your case, that your ex-company retrenched you when you're pregnant, you may seek help at mom and see what they can help. Hope you can get back what you deserve. Take care.
MOM is not helping... i did call them up & told them.. but they say as i'm not in my 3mth at the point of notification, there is no case.... with them since the company have given my 1 month notice...
so much on the government promoting childbirth!
For the finding of part-time job, you may wish to look for agency to help you. They got lots of part-time job available.
i have been doing that thru agency.... they ask me to send them my resume, after i did, there is no more reply from them... =(
Are you asking for high pay as a part-timer? If not usually they will need like admin/receptionist. It's an easy job but low pay.
nope, my resume did not mention any pay...
When I was preggie with my boy, me & hub combined pay at that time only slightly less than $3k (take home). Plus we had to pay rental, utilities & internet/cable TV, etc cos we were waiting for our new house. We even had a maid and managed to pay for everything and got extra to save. I think you might need to do list of expenses, try to eliminate or cut down unnecessary expenses first. Sit down with your hub to discuss on the expenses.
If you dont't mind, can PM me more details about yourself? Cos I might be looking for someone to do some typing work for me (the current mommy can't cope). I cant afford to pay alot but at least it's some form of income.
Your previous job is IT related? Are you proficient in creating online stores? I have been looking for ppl to help me create a website for online store but the charges were too exp. If you can do in your free time before you deliver, I dont't mind letting you do it (just charge me slightly cheaper than market rate k?).
I also saw alot of advert recently in ST Classified for home based part timer or those telemarketer. Maybe can give those a try?
There are many ways to earn money, even at home. I just tendered resignation and I'm trying for #2. If there's a will, there's a way!
dont't think about negative stuff. Spend more time on forum with us to chit chat & read up about baby care
Empty vessels make the most noise
stonston, yes we have cut down alot already... i saw those adv too, but most are those MLM...
I just PM you...
Not all are MLM. There are some is telemarketer/appt setter for property agent.
Got one is those chatline one. Super funny. My friend is doing it. Just everyday on the phone to chat with those guys. Then the longer you can keep them on the phone line, the more your earn
Or you can try those PT teacher job at student care centres? At least no need to walk too much and they also pay by per hour basis.
those telemarketers for agents the timing is abit off for me... i would prefer those office hours...
the PT teachers i tink need experience one if i'm not wrong...
Student care no need experience. They actually look for those 'O' or 'A' level holders.
Just 'babysit' the kids. Ask them to follow timetable, make sure they are doing their homework instead of playing sort of thing. Recently newspaper alot of advert for this.
just to share me also got a huge paycut n demotion whn company found i was preggy. We had debts, and bills and hubs was bringing back less than 2k!! (had to give alimony to ex) but we survived up till now. I am stay at home mum, dont worry can manage. just must work out with what you have... in cantonese we say ( sei lok dei hang) it measn if horse dies, we get down and walk. take care babe!
stonston, hmm i thought need the childcare cert, etc...
jojo, thanks for the encouragement.
Try not to be over stress, not good for your health and your baby. I believe everyone here will help you whenever possible. Most impt is dont't think too much, everything can be solve.
Actually, I'm still looking for a teleconsultant cum PA, it will be during office hour but I dont't need you to come to ofc everyday. As this job is a flexible and the paid is per hourly rate. My ofc is in Tanjong pagar, let me know if you are interested.
actually last time (5 yrs back) i got a neighbour in his early early 50s working as a driver.... take home pay $1300/- wife not working. got 3 kids! youngest 1 just pri 2 (at dat time) wonder how he survived............sole bread winner for a family of 5!!! but if he can do it, im sure you can too!!! but MOM cant do anything about it? i can understand why the new co. dont wanna hire you, but your old co.................atrocious!!!!!
can you pm me and tell me more about the teleconsultant cum PA position? thanks!
I understand what you are going thru cos i am like you.... I lost my job when my company found out that i am pregnant. Best part is when i am so call declared a single mommy. My heartless hubby is having an affair. I guess mommies who have seen my previous post know about my cases. I cried and wanted to die but as you think back... its not gonna help you in anyway. THINK OF THE SOLUTION AND NOT THE PROBLEM....
You know people start asking me... how did i survive all these while from i am pregnant till now... since my gal is now coming to 4 months old. My answer is simple... i survived on my own savings... From a 4 digits to now 0. But thank GOD i pull thru the hard time with the help of baby bonus. Can you image i survive with that 1k and now i just started working temp for the income. I also paid for all my hospitalisation bills all by myself... using my own CPF Medisave when i gave birth and when my wound gets infection... (cos i c-sec)
Though its not something i want, i have no choice but to ask my mother to take care of my gal.
Its not easy but for the seekof our child, SAVE MONEY will SAVE THE DAY. Buy things when it is seriously neccessary.
Throughout this period of time....of cos i also have to appreciate mommies here who did help me....giving me baby clothings and neccessity stuffs.
The tough time will be over....BE POSITIVE! THINK OF THE BRIGHT SIDE!
If you do have facebook.... add me email@example.com
Oh ya. you can try contacting this guy by the name of Timothy 63411882, you can check if he have any part time job for you. good luck!
thanks for your encouragement... i have just added you in my facebook.... however, if anything personnel, pls dont not post at my facebook comments/post... cos would like some privacy there... thanks...
tq for the contact, is he a job agent?