True. Instead of having one more daughter they are losing a son. I really envy n take my hat off to you, "talking back" is something I always imagine I want to do but never do it. End up stuff everything inside so suffering. Actually not really talk back but actually voice out how we feel. I also seldom initiate to talk to them because their face is almost black to us all the time. What for put our hot face on their cold buttock ? Lucky my husband side me and can't stand his mum nonsense most of the time. As for baby, worst case I find nanny or send to my friend mum at upp thomson, though quite tough for me from woodlands but no choice.