This is a discussion on Private Investigator within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by BETRAYED Luckily you get the evidence and see his true colour. He will definitely regret what he ...
well, it really hurts to leave a man that i have been living with for the past 10years and loving him more than myself... i am struggling, struggling to learn to live my life without him!!
Pick up a new interest/hobby, you will meet new friends etc. Learn to live without him cos your hubby probably anticipate that you cannot live without him. Sometimes, men think that we women are weak and dependent of them. We should show them we are not.
For your case, at least you have no children, so things are less complicated.
Hi can i know how much you all spend for the PI?
btw, how's your case? forgiven your hubby?
i know i must stay strong however, it's really very difficult!! now that i have aldready moved to my mum's place, i still think of him everytime. and whenever i go back to my own house to take things, everything there remind me of him, of us together, then uncontrollably, i will cry again and again..
dont know when then i will finally get over all these.. haizzz...
I guess you will need to avoid going back or do anything that reminds you of him for time being (that's why the need to pick up new hobby .
Tell yourself that the wound will heal; initially painful but as time goes by, the wound will recover by itself...
i was once in such a state like you.. dont know if should forgive and start all over or just leave him..
1st of all, i think you need to ask yourself, should you stay with him, whatever he say and do, do you trust him 100%? if your answer is NO, then i guess it's no point holding on.. cause the trust is already betrayed and you will end up thinking all sorts of negative thoughts and suspect him here and there, so no point..
i once convinced myself to trust his words, in the end, i found out that he is again telling lies one after another... so i finally give up!!
sorry to hear that the marriage cannot be salvaged.
Well, for my case, like I mentioned before, he is Also beyond hope and I have already given up. Currently in the midst of the divorce proceedings. In conclusion, I feel that man like this dont't deserve our love at all!! Thankfully, we are courageous enough to put a step forward to give up on him.. I understand it really take a lot and a lot of courage and will to decide on this move today.
And I am glad that I have moved on.. Today, I am thankful that I find my life back, a life that I need not worry, scared and phobia that he will repeat again..
Hope you will take it well too! Should you need a hearing ear, you can pm me as well! Take care!!
yes, i do have a very good lawyer but she is not cheap.
my advice is try to talk terms with your husband 1st like your house, your joint accounts, etc... if both of you can agree and come to terms then i think a normal lawyer to do all the paperwork will do. if not, then engage a good lawyer to help secure your interests and make your husband pay for the legal fee. Also, dont forget to ask him pay for the PI fee as well.
if you need the lawyer's contact, you can pm me.
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how's your status now? hopefully things are fine!
Hi mummies, I am thinking of engaging a PI. Can I know what to lookout for? I am very afraid that my husband might find out. And i have also hear about some PI taking money and not doing the job, can i know how to prevent this?
Hi, Try not to look up in the newspaper, there are a 'big' company in Japanese name is especially bad. One of my friend went to ask him to do a job, not only he didn;t do the job, he lied to my friend on the findings. After much pressure, he returned the money back to us.
If you are looking for a reliable PI, make sure they are licensed, and if possible get referral, also make sure you feel comfortable talking to him, as you needs to be closely in touch constantly with him.
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It is very miserable to say here that i am suffering for 3 months with sleepless and not eating well but struggle myself to go work to distract myself but it could not work on me. It is such a huge disturbance to me.
My has changed quite abit and i did not know this till I found out at the late of June 2010. Since May 2010, he came home very late sometimes at 2am, 4am, 6am and eventually 3 times at 830am. One time before, I waited for him at living room and messaged him several times. But he did not reply me or he off his phone purposely. Was worried and stared at the window for so long. Of course I love him. Then till 6am, he sms-ed me saying he was drunk and rest at his friend place. Why he sms me this wee morning? He refused to tell me whose friend he stayed at. He came home at 645am with 2 packs of noodles to eat. Can you imagine like this?
I have no clue what he was doing outside when he went out from home at 9+pm everyday.
One occasion was that he came home at 830am and somehow I felt that he was like staying at his secret bitch place. He still refused to tell me whose friends or he did not want to mention his friend name. He was not like this before whom I know.
On 28th to 29th May 2010, he said he went to Malaysia. On that day, I went for my Sundown Adidas Marathon 21km at 9pm and I suffered fatigue and vomited and nearly died on the road. Luckily I survived and sent to clinic tentage to rest there till 230am, i was sent home safety but I did not see my there at home. I sms-ed him about my condition but he did not bother to say or reply me. I think he off his phone or ignored my messages. I was sad and lonely at home. I nursed myself and went to sleep.
On 29th May 2010, he came home and did not ask how I felt or what. He treated me like an invisible to him. I felt very painful inside me. Till 2 weeks later, I found out that he was not in Malaysia. He was staying at this bitch place. Because I checked his passport as well.
I felt strange when I see very different from last time. He eventually bought several cards (like international cards to make call) to vietnam and talked to her happily in front of me every mornings.
No wonder he became soooo sticky to the phone all the time. He was not like this before. And they exchanged sms which said like "Bitch loves him till she dies. She miss him. She loves him."
Then replied "he miss bitch.", "he wants to be with her forever." & "he loves her."
Got chance to grab his phone. Reading his messages to bitch that stabbed my heart painfully.
He met up with her several times and eventually paid for her phone bills. I got the chance to know her home address where she stays and her contact number. I hide them with me.
Claimed to say that he wants to divorce me as he wants his life back to be single. He had forgetten that we have a lovely 2+ years old boy. I felt that he wants to divorce me for this bitch, LISA.
I refused the divorce. Whenever I bring up to about Lisa, he was numbed and avoid this. He told me not to bother this and that and mind my own thing to do.
Decided on hiring PI to check on and LISA. Also feeling the pinch to scold LISA.
LISA is a vietnamese bitch who disturbed (my hubby.) She lives in Serangoon. But I wonder what LISA is doing here for living?
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