my reply are in red =)i appreciate my inlaws especially my mother in law who takes care of my coming 1yr old son. but like all DILs , there are times when she does things i dislike or say things that piss me off. being soft-spoken, i never once talk back to them as i do not want my hubby to be put in the spot. until now i felt that i really should speak up & dont be a mute anymore.
mother in law takes care of my son 5days a week, evening me & hubby will fetch him home & eat dinner at inlaws place. ive no preference on what they cook, they cook i eat as long is edible. but now i feel what they cook is yucky so i try not to eat there.
moments that i hate about them:
1) recently my son's back(at the back of his neck) has abit rash, its due to him sweating alot at night when he sleeps even though we on aircon he still sweats. mother in law said i never take care properly, ALWAYS mondays she sure c my son here & there got rash. thats not true. its because my son sweats alot & i always apply powder as & when he need. luckily my hubby knows & told his mum what happened. But she did not believe & continue her stupid nagging.
off topic abit, but pls dont apply powder for your son if he is having rashes, it might worsen the heat rash. apply baby lotion. ash used to have heat rashes, after a week of applying lotion, it got better =)
maybe next time you can choose a friday and show her keith's rashes to let her know it is due to heat, nth to do with you or her taking care.
2) 1st time my son gets sick @ 7mths, she says it must be my dog. then she call my dog stupid cos made her grandson sick & so ke lian, tel me to get rid of IT. i nicely told her its not because of my dog(my dog has been around my son since he was born). then my hubby back me up & said its because he had childhood asthma & my son got it. she gets it so she shuts up about my dog.
lik you said, if it is due to the dog pro, keith will not started falling ill only at 7mth old. the 1st 6mth+ was alright.
3) mother in law is ALWAYS trying to make my son stay overnight at her place. i told her nicely we would prefered to bring him home daily so we can teach him & bond with him since we r working during the day. she stopped nagging for awhile then recently she started again saying when my son is older he SURE WANT TO STAY cos her house got company for my son.(my son's 2 other cousins are there). & she continued saying her daughter's son will want to stay so will my son. i never answered her back but deep down i was fuming yet my hubby never said a word. I thought FINE, next time she start again im gg to answer her back.
if i were you, i will just stop explaining to her, use your action to show her your determination in bringing YOUR son home daily.
4) my inlaws are looking after my brother in law's 2 kids. whenever they r naughty, my inlaws will use MY NAME to scold them. i find this very inapporiate. if they want to scold them, just do so , Y must drag me in. Now the 2 kids c me they dont greet me & so rude to me.
use the same tactic. next time they naughty just say "cannot do that, later ahma scold you!!!! haha!
sometimes i feel like im too sensitive towards their reactions.
sorry for long post, need to vent out....