This mother in law of urs sounds like mother in law before I got married with my husband. And things became worst after baby was born. She volunteered to take care of my boy by hiring a maid and she say she will always be there with the maid, and I disagreed, because I dont't think this shld be the way to take care of a baby. It's not a dog where you can just throw it to the maid and play with the baby as and when you like!!!!!! Because of this we had a big fight and now we are not in talking terms but I'm still staying in their home -.- my mother in law is as irritating as urs, everyday kaopei kaobu (sorry for vulgarities) talk like she know a lot, but actually she doesn't, all her informations are always false, just that I respect her as my mother in law, I dont't wanna xia suay her. When I was pregnant with my boy she will give comments like "give birth to boy next time tabao food for the girl's mother , girl is better" or "why you always stay at home? you no friend ar?" Or hint that i always sticking to my husband and make until like he has no friends. Like i've said, she doesnt know anything but want to jump to conclusion, when i was pregnant, so tired ,can rest why dont want ti rest? My husband is woeking 6 days a week, you want him to go out with his friends everyday and wake up late the next morning? Somemore i never stop my husband from going out before, infact, i always encourage him to call his friends to meet out and catch up with each other. This is like 1% of her problem only, if I want to say about her I can say until 2014 also not done. I hate her to the extend that I complain about my mother in law so much in this forum. Conclusion is, she is a piece of shit.
In my opinion,
If you can stay at your house until when you and your hub can move in to your own apartment is the best solution. Confinement do at home with the help of your mom is the best. You can have dinner with your hubby everynight if you want to see him. Sometimes I feel that man find a lot of excuses to protect their mother (even its obvious that their mothers has a problem), and yes it's natural cause its their mother, and for us wives, we shld learn how to keep a distance from their family to lessen the quarrel and it helps to improve you and your husband's relationship as he won't find that your a nag. If I were you, I would have gone back to my parent's house to stay, but too bad, the room is being rent.