I am sorry to continue on this thread. It seems like it has become a place for me to rant rather than to hear others' opinions. Hopefully some mummies will reply here soon.
Yesterday was a pretty dissappointing day for me. I had a talk with my mum over a small issue, I just do not want to have a celebratory dinner over my work promotion with my mum's relatives while my mum insists that I have to do it because all her relatives do that. I explained to her that I am just not the type who likes to boast about such things but she insists. The reason I feel is boasting is because all my cousins are only working normal jobs, so why should I need to throw a party to announce to the whole world that I have achieved something great? In the end my mum got angry and insisted. She said she'll ask my brother what he thinks.
So she talked to brother. All this time my brother has been confiding in me that he is tired of mum always comparing us with her relatives' side. That's why I thought my brother will be fair in this issue. It turned out he kept siding my mum. I was disappointed and told them that we end the talk then because it seems you all only care about what outside people feel. After the talk, I asked brother what he really thought. He said he feels I was right but he sided mum cause no point arguing with her.
Hearing this was a wake-up call for me actually! I am starting to see now that I have been so naive all along. Whenever he tells me his problems with mum, I always try my best to bring it up to mum in a soft manner and in a way solves it for him. Now that I only needed his honest input, he actually takes my mum's side just to please her. I am very very disappointed! I thought office politics is inevitable, but it seems at home also need to be on high guard.
Anyone has experienced similar things? Does any of you ever feel like you can't really trust your own family members with your honest feelings?