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i'm so sad.. parent in law maid dont let me be with my kids.. what should i do? n my mother in law n my husband side the maid.. i dont know what to do.. i think i'm going crazy..
Last edited by fiona; 15-10-2007 at 11:40 PM.
What's the reason that your maid did that? Is there any misunderstandings?
OMG. What exactly happened.
cheer up, no matter what, they are your kids, no one has the rights to stop you from being with them, unless the law dont allow you.
what's the actual reason?
Find out the reason before sinking into a depression.
what happened?? Fiona.
Tok to dear husband, there could some misunderstanding. Take care.
Legally, you have a right to your kids....
maybe you can share e situation with us? cos if it serious enuf, i will encourage you to fight for your kids....
what have actually happened??
they dont have the rights not to let the kids b with you...
You have all the rights to your kids unless the court ordered you not to! Who is your maid to keep your kids from you?! And your inlaws and hubby... what are the reasons? Pls share more with us. Take care!
r you alright? Yah, do share more with us.
I hope things get resolved soon!
Do Take Care!
Fiona, what are the main reasons that your mother in law, husband and maid refuse to let you be with your children? Are you in some family crisis?
You need to share before any help can be offered to you. Like the rest said, there might be some misunderstanding. And if you did not get an order from the court to stay away from your children, you have the right and you can seek legal help too.
Do take care .. dont worry kids is urs no one can snatch away from you somemore is maid oni.. maybe you would want to be more detailed in your problem so we can know how to help you in??
erm, fiona, r you ok??
why no reply??
my mother in law n my husband side my maid.. they say i dont know how to take care of my own kids.. n i think i'm going crazy.. sometimes i find myself talking to the wall myself.. i am very scare.. my husband dont have time for me.. n we dont talk much.. my mother in law control everything.. i can't do things i like to do.. i do things they like me to do.. n if my husband quarrel with me.. they will say is my fault.. i am very sad.. i really dont know what to do.. i want to move out but my husband dont want to move out.. i am very stress.. the family here treat the maid better dan me.. they tell me they can dont want me.. but they want the children.. n i dont have money to rise them up.. so i dont have the right to say they r mine.. they use money to threaten me.. they have the money so they say what i have to listen.. n now i'm working for them.. i also dont like the job they give me.. they ask me to go become the hawker asst.. from 3 am to 4 pm.. one day oni give me $50.. they dont let me go out to work.. but they let my husband go out to work.. work until very late then go home.. they didn't say a word.. now i'm oni 20 yrs old.. my mother in law is jealous of me.. she always say last time she is very pretty.. smaller size dan me all.. but why she want to show off infornt of me?
sad to hear yr story
i hope you are alright...
dont stress tooo much
if im not wrong you r first time mummb yr mother in law want to help you to take care of yr baby, that y yr maid get involved.
did you ever tok t yr husband, tel him hw you feels??
it's one of the neg side of staying with ILs. watever you do, they will interfer
try to have a heart to heart tok with yr husband
mb you both can starts to save up & apply for a new flat of your own
it's better loh
aiyo sad to hear.. but well find some friends to tok too cos you keeping all to yourself wait depression how? if really get e more dey keep e kids away fm you.. sigh have to be strong .. tk cr
Fiona, it seems like your controlling mother in law, together with being overwhelmed by your husband's actions have pushed you into depression....
I suggest you seek help at a family service centre....you need to go thru counselling to help yourself first....then you can attend talks/courses on babycare and be more hands on so they cant say you dont know how to look after baby
btw, FSC can also help you find better jobs n if need be, they can also help you gain custody of e child...
you seem young n maybe childbirth changed your life drastically so you r very lost now...dont worry too much, you can come online n chat with us...
dont mind me asking, how about moving back to your parents' place for e time being? at least you take e "mother in law" factor out of e picture first?
Empty vessels make the most noise
i got think of this before also.. but my husband dont let me to.. n my mother in law dont let my husband to move out.. she make me feel that she want his son n her grandchildren.. then if i want to move out i move out myself.. i cannot even bring my own children out lei.. she will just give me a face n see .. i really dont't know why they so scare i bring my children out.. like i will kill my own child? omg.. i dont't know what they r thinking.. i told my husband that i want to move out.. but he just scold me n that all.. i really very stress.. i really dont't know i can stand until when.. really very tired already..
dont be stress .. your kids needs you. my mother in law is also very controling..
i just show her who's boss . i mean mayb i'm setting a bad example for you.
but at least it worked well for me.
when she dont allow me to bring my dear son out, i just dont care, back his stuff carry him onto his pram and off i go.
sometimes we just have to remind them that we're the kids MOMMY!!
take care and dont think so much..
try to talk to your dear husband...
let them know that although you r young bt you still b able to take care of your kids...
did your parents know about this matter??