This is a discussion on Seeking some opinions from fellow forummers... within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by daddy70 Mop around once a month, but sweep every day. It's my mother doing it but she ...
My family also mop the floor quite frequently while my mother in law only does it once in awhile as she is pretty busy on work. So everytime when we go back to my inlaws' place, I will come back with my eczema flaring up. But we are opposite, my hub is more concern on this. I feel that I cannot force my mother in law to clean the house as clean as my parents'. And I could see that she alrdy put in effort to clean up the house as much as she could whenever we are going up despite being busy (she has to drop her work for a few hours to clean up the house). And my hub did not think that her own parents house is not very clean until he stays with my family and starts to get use to my parents' clean and neat house.
You might think that your wife is being abnormal but I can tell you, it is all becos your are brought up is different families and environments. No one is right/wrong in this issue. Maybe try to mop the house abit more frequent since there is a cat and now a baby? As for the baby part. Nope, I will not request anyone to bath before carrying my baby, BUT will get them to wash their hands, which I assume is the very common and standard thing to do.
It's an individual thing I reckon, but you and your wife have to come into an agreement somewhere in the middle.
After reading your post I feel like a dirty person hahaha. To me I dont't bother keeping things too clean and it gets my son used to germs to build up his immune system. That's my theory anyway. There have been studies conducted which showed that babies exposed to pets and dirt get sick less often, have stronger hearts and have a lower risk of asthma and allergies. Just search up babies and dirt and there are bound to be articles. I've heard of inquisitive babies putting dirt, grasshoppers, or anything they can get their grubby hands on into their mouths...and they survive
Actually I do not think your wife is abnormal, it's merely a formed-habit as a result of having grown up in a clean environment. Her requests are quite normal too. Reason for my opinion is because I also grew up in a very 'clean-freak' environment so I can't really get use to my SO's family house.
I grew up in a house where floors are swept and mopped every single day, each of our toilets washed every day, all our bedrooms are tidied every day and every item in the house is arranged almost like a showroom (no exaggeration), clothes washed and ironed every day. My mum is an extremely organised and neat person who can't tolerate untidiness or dirtiness, that's why. So when I go over to my SO's place sometimes, I also can't stand it. His family very easy-going: floors not mopped for days/weeks (they wear slippers around the house), clothes not washed/ironed for days, toilets washed weekly, beds not made. I usually can't stand it so I tend to do most of the housework when I am there.
So I think your wife is like me, she just isn't used to your house's habits. Nothing wrong with her I think.
I think your wife's habits sound reasonable to me. It's just a matter of striking a balance between both of you.
I'm not used to having pets at home, so I can resonate with your wife's behaviour. I'm not a total clean freak but I like my home mopped properly at least once a week with a mid-week magic clean wipe. Vacuum is on alternate days. Once a month mopping sounds too little to me! Instead of getting your parents to help with such heavy duty chores since they are getting on in age, perhaps you can consider those once-a-week cleaning services where a helper comes to vacuum and mop your house amongst other duties. It will allow family members to spend quality time together while ensuring the house is clean.
full time working mum with 3 kids (8yo, 6yo and a toddler born in Oct 2009)
My husband's family is extremely clean to the point that I think my mother in law has OCD. But thank God, we dont't live together. She has chided me several times that I'm not a very clean person. I usually brush it off. But I do admit that I'm really bad at cleaning and tidying up. So to avoid problems between husband and me or when in laws visit, we hired a helper. Maybe you could do that. If there's too much cleaning or housework to do, hire someone to help you out. For a first time mum, it can be tiring both physically and mentally.
Anyway the child care is not as clean either..