Ohdear, had no idea things were getting crappy for you for the last few days.
My parents just left and they are the opposite of your mother-in-law. They love keeping Eva awake and when she fusses, they quickly hand her back to me and say that it's none of their business and etc. My daugther is like a toy to them. And I have tried telling them to stop what they are doing - keeping her awake, letting her watch the TV and etc - and their excuse is the same "aiya, we just come for a short while. when we go back, you train her again". Mind you, short while is four days every MONTH. I dont't want Eva to develop bad habits and such. Plus at her age, she needs lots of rest. And as if it's that easy to train her back again. =.=
When they are not busy keeping Eva awake, they like to check out the place and give me lectures as if I'm a child. Mind you, I'm turning 30 and my mum still tells me how to cook and what-not (BUT a few minutes later, she would ask me things like whether the prawns are cooked - WTH), how to renew my passport (as if I'm that stupid), tell me how to look for a job and etc (WTH).
When my husband steps in coz my parents dont't seem to listen to me, they think he's rude and they give me a lecture on how we should treat them as guests and as parents. But they dont't get it - it's either you're on or the other. You can have the best of both worlds.
Enough about my problems...is there any way to make your hubby "get it"?
It's not so easy for us DILs to tell our MILs off as we may come across as rude and well, that doesn't speak well for our hubbies either. And like it or not, he should be more concerned about his new family's welfare, especially his daughter's, and not his mum's feelings. That's his job as a husband and a father. It's not so easy as just play with daugther and that's it.
Sorry to have to say this but your mother-in-law's days as a parent has long gone. She hasn't been a parent to a baby in over two decades and what may work for her, may not work for your baby. This is something your hubby needs to see.
No one wants their husbands to choose between his mother and his wife, BUT a line has to be drawn somewhere. When he is needed to step up to his role and responsibility of a father and a husband, he has to do it not cower behind the excuse of filial piety. He's merely letting Laura and you down. It doesn't do anyone any good in the long run, even your mother-in-law.