This is a discussion on Should i Divorce or forgive? within the Home Life, Relationships & Finance forum, part of the You and Your Family category; You are still young (age 22 only!) and have plenty of life and opportunities ahead of you. If you need ...
You are still young (age 22 only!) and have plenty of life and opportunities ahead of you. If you need to be sad for a while, be sad for a while and move on after that because he is not worth you thinking about. (I will reserve comments about his appalling misbehaviour as many mummies and replies already told you the kind of person he is.)
You have yourself and child to take care of!! The wonderful thing is you have time on your side. For eg if you may be plump (after childbirth) or feel unattractive, you have loads of time and chances to spruce yourself up again!! It's a big forest with many trees out there take your time to find the right tree you like and which can accomodate you and baby.
Pls no need to worry about whether he can afford alimony or maintenance. It's your ENTITLEMENT and he OWES you this much. The courts will do what's right, just focus on getting Evidence.
what nonsense, lousy excuses to have an affair!
Glad that he know he is a jerk....
that is the very first step to leave him...
sure will think one for the beginning as you had been together for sometime....
but slowly time will ease the pain and emptiness. focus on your son!
diymummy, my friend and bro told me before even the house is under the guy's name only, when divorce, the wife also got the right to ask for half of his assets.. dont know how true but maybe can ask around? must do some 'homewk' 1st to prevent losing out =)
I know is hard not to think of him... it takes time... dont't stress yourself too much to forget him... slowly... as for the CCTV is like a hidden cam .. so that he will not knw that you r watching him.... you know those kind that ppl spy on their maid at home?? is the small... very small pin hole cam... if you want you can as masayuki help you.. he got lobang... just PM him... or can even add him in msn..... of course when he is not at home then you ask them come fix... ya i know sometime your mum cannot understand... or you can find some frenz to talk it out.. at least you got someone to talk to... dont't keep to yourself.. is not healthy.... if you r tight in $$ of course you can ask money from him.. but now i dont't think he will give you.. so you gotta get all the video or proof that he cheat so that you can fight the case asap.....
As for him saying that is because he dont't like your mum then he do this to you.. i will tell him = dont'T COME BULLSHIT, WHO WILL BELIEVE THIS KIND OF SHIT??
Anyway i hope for the best for you.. if you need someone you can always find all the mummy here to talk... Hang on ~ Pats ~
He's not even bothering to hide it... obviously, he thinks very little of you and your marriage. No point trying to hang onto him. Best case, try to divorce him and suqeeze every penny from him. Worst case, just quickly divorce him and move on with your own life. You are still very young and have a lot to look forward to, dont't let someone like him hold you back. Having not worked for 5 years, returning to work and making new friends will be hard for you but it can be done. If you need people to talk to, you can always come to mummysg. Lots of very understanding people here
install a cctv , capture everything, sue him, get money, take some and hire bengs to beat him up, bangala to rape the girl. If you remember him it's only a joke. Life is fragile , live strong . Need anything i can help let me know.
OMG, vin83, can you pls dont give her this kinda rubbish suggestion?
you shld be tryin to help her not get her into trouble. -.-"
TS, 5 years of relationship only, you may think its a long way, but you've only just started.
couples that marry after 10, 20 years also can move on, why not you?
men like him r shameless, so dont bother about him no money or what..
he not working? then his mum paying for everything?
dont be despair, im sure you can find evidence.
once a thief, always a thief, he will strike again.
plus, you r no longer staying there, he has more chance to do it.
he seriously doesnt respect you, therefore you dont have to respect him.
dont go soft on jerks like him, make him pay (money! ) for his actions.
let him know he cant have his cake n eat it. he have to pay for it first.. LOL~
i can see your maid cant be trusted, if not she would have informed you about it already..
your mother in law even worst.... -.-"
divorce, move back to your mum's place, sell the house n KICK THEM ALL OUT!
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
Yes agree with the mummies here.
He's not worth anymore. Divorce him and move on. It's hard but dont't worry, alot of people can go through it. Besides, your mum will support you too. *pats
And yes, do make him pay for maintenance!!
Wah i think your mother in law is the most stupid people i ever see.... how can she knows & let her son do this kind of things... she dont't know how to be shame of her son?? or her mental got problem..... as for the maid.. you cannot trust them.. cause they will sure hide & keep quiet... so no need to bother about it.... & dont't stay in a marriage just because you feel that it will affect your kids if you leave him.... it will cause hurt for you & your kids.... & also be glad that you know this is happening... can you imagine 10 year after then you knw?? Now you r still young.. there is alot of things you can do to move on with your life... you can still go work even you already be a housewife for 5 years... support yourself & your son.. but of course gotta sue him & take money from him.. dont't let him go off so easily.... as for friends... you can always come here to talk to us... i'm sure lots of mummy will be your listening ears & advice you....
Really sad to hear this from you! But if i will you, i won't forgive him for bringing that B**** home, somemore sleep on your bed. Anyway you're so young and you'll find a better man to lead a better future w/o this J***. dont be softhearted. This kind of man, dont deserve your love and tears. Be strong!